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Men Dislike Double Standard More Than Women?
Plenty of women hate the double standard that rewards men for having sex, but punishes women.
But on average, men dislike it more.
Why is that? Read the rest of this entry
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Tough Guys and Tough Guises
Tough guise
Boys and men can spend a lot of time putting on a tough guise, hoping to pass for tough guys.
Maybe you’ve seen Jackson Katz’s film, Tough Guise, which explores the problem.
The film opens with Dorothy pulling back the curtain of the Great and Powerful Wizard of Oz — who turns out to be a nervous and tragic man. Read the rest of this entry
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Repression Shutting Down Teen Girl’s Sexuality
Dilemmas of Desire by Deborah Tolman
Young women’s experience of sexuality was ignored by social scientists for years.
But about ten years ago San Francisco State professor Deborah Tolman interviewed high school girls who would be in their late 20s today.
Prof. Tolman had expected to unveil young women’s strong yearnings, but instead she found that most were hazy about their desire. It was dulled. Or even nonexistent. Read the rest of this entry
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Welcome To My Open Marriage
Sex At Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Caclida Jetha.
A friend invited me into his open marriage.
Well, me and a bunch of our other female friends. Plus other women I don’t know.
I declined but he’s persistant. It’s a personality trait of his.
He sent a link quoting Christopher Ryan, author of “Sex at Dawn,” who said,
We assume monogamy is natural and preferable. But (controversial) evidence says “maybe not.” If monogamy isn’t necessarily natural, then we can stop shaming and discriminating against non-monogamous behavior.
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Women in Pornography
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By Brittany Merry
In America, pornography is almost unavoidable. What sorts of messages does it send?
To find out, I looked at the 10 “most viewed” videos on PornHub.
Two were celebrity sex tapes, and I didn’t look at those because their popularity was probably less about what they were doing than who was doing it.
All of the remaining videos were: Read the rest of this entry
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She Wonders: Am I “Doing It” Right?
Women often get distracted in bed, wondering, “Am I doing it right?”
Maybe that’s why a number of my women students and blog readers have said they watch porn to figure out what guys like — not because they enjoy it, themselves — either the sex on screen or the sex moves they learn.
And they end up worrying about whether they are adventurous enough, moaning enough, loud enough, or “right.” And are they taking too long to cum?
When I told one of my friends about all this, “CJ” began telling me her story. As we sat at a kitchen table, drinking tea, she began: Read the rest of this entry
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Women, Objects of Desire (Even for Women?)
Women bombarded by Victoria’s Secret models
Sexy lady’s bodies have been the focus of pop culture for decades.
Maybe that’s why even straight women were more aroused by a nude woman than by a nude man in one study, when measuring blood flow to the vagina. Some research suggests culture may be playing a role.
Is this true? A student of mine wondered. Read the rest of this entry
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The Trouble With Fetishes
Fetishes can be fun.
Shoes. Feet. Cabbage. (Or so I hear.)
Women’s breasts and butts…
Women’s breasts and butts are fetishized? Yep. The arousal they spark is not universal.
But here’s the problem: a fetish can actually harm our sex lives. Read the rest of this entry
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A Girl Who Was Raised Like A Boy
S. as a little girl.
By S. Abu-Coush
Men are men and women are women?
We don’t learn to be. We just are?
But I didn’t learn gender the way most girls do. And even less the way most Middle Eastern girls do.
And I don’t see myself the way most girls do, either. Read the rest of this entry
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A Sex Object Not Enjoying Sex
It’s not unusual these days for a young woman to become preoccupied with how attractive she looks, habitually seeing herself through her partner’s eyes, and judging herself based on what she thinks he thinks. In other words, to self-objectify.
Instead of enjoying sex.
I’ve talked with friends about the phenomenon and a couple of them have opened up and told me their stories. Like “Sophie,” who let me relate her story in my blog. Read the rest of this entry
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