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Think We’ve Overcome Victorian Repression?
Think we’ve overcome Victorian sexual repression and now enjoy a sex-positive society? What about statements like this:
Some girls make it difficult for the rest of us to get respect.
That’s what a sorority sister said about girls who “give it away” too easily.
When I ask my students in the progressive San Francisco Bay Area what they think about this, I often hear thoughts like this:
Yeah that’s true. Some girls do give it up too easily and make it hard on the rest of us.
Or,
Their mamas didn’t teach them right.
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Objectification’s Role in a Suicide
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More than sexual objectification was certainly involved in 15-year-old Amanda Todd’s death. But it seems to have played a role.
It all began when Amanda and a few of her middle school friends started videochatting with strangers just for fun. Some told her she was “stunning, beautiful, perfect,” a complement any 13-year-old would enjoy. Eventually, a man asked her to flash. And she did. Read the rest of this entry
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Straight vs Gay Slut-Shaming
In straight culture women are often shamed for having sex while men are celebrated.
But things may be reversed in gay culture. “Heather” wrote in to say:
I agree completely that straight women tend to slut-shame other straight women and that straight men congratulate other straight men for their “sexual conquests.”
But in my experience that is not the case in the LBGT+ community. I’m straight myself, but among my gay and lesbian friends things seem to be the opposite: gay men slut-shame gay men, and lesbians congratulate lesbians.
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I Slut-Shamed Before I Was Slut-Shamed
By Aili Masuda
I slut-shamed girls before I was slut-shamed, myself.
Yes, as a little girl I succumbed to the standard of humiliating other girls. Now I see that this behavior grew from my own insecurities. And because I didn’t know what it was like to be the target.
But it wasn’t long before I became the target, myself. Read the rest of this entry
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School Scandal Targets “Her” Not “Him”
By Rebecca S.
The sexual revolution has arrived. Women and men, alike, are free to enjoy sex, right?
Not if the school scandal that roared during my junior year is any measure.
“Janet” was popular, and a talented player on our school’s field hockey team.
Until word got around that she had filmed a sex tape with a guy from our school. Read the rest of this entry
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Why Do Women Prioritize Men’s Pleasure?
Only want to please your man?
A lot of women prioritize men’s pleasure over their own.
Instead of focusing on her own pleasure a woman may worry about whether she’s attractive enough. Or she may agree to do things she doesn’t like. Or she may give him a blowjob in his dorm room, or the backseat of his car, without expecting anything in return.
But why is that? Read the rest of this entry
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Why Don’t Men Slut-Shame Men?
The sexual double standard.
Women are more likely than men to slut-shame women.
Yet men don’t seem to shame men for having sex. Ever.
Instead, the sexual “conqueror” gets high-fives from guys who praise his prowess.
What’s up with that? Read the rest of this entry
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Outside the Sex-Negative Box
Mae West: “When I’m good I’m very good. But when I’m bad I’m better.”
Girls who lack desire are good girls?
Pretty much all of my students have witnessed slut-shaming in high school, and many have experienced it.
Or just listen to the radio and you’ll hear desiring girls insulted as “hoes.”
Because apparently, a girl with desire is a bad girl.
Some young women even defend their virtue after being raped by explaining that they felt no desire. Like Audrie and Daisy: Read the rest of this entry
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Men Fearing Women’s Sexuality
Fearing women’s sexuality.
By Jonathan Jefferson
Back in high school I was surprised at the amount of hatred that could be directed toward women in common, everyday conversation.
Guys talked about ex-girlfriends or girls they’d slept with in such a negative light.
If a girl had been with another boy — at all — anyone who slept with her later could do no better than “sloppy seconds.” Read the rest of this entry
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I Slut-Shamed Out Of Jealousy
End slut-shaming
By Bianca Martinez
The younger me wore oversized sweaters and baggy pants.
And I avoided skirts, perfume, and the color pink.
I’d thought I did this because I valued “manly” over “girly.”
But really it was the opposite: To me, girly meant pretty, and I didn’t feel pretty. So I didn’t deserve to feel girly. Read the rest of this entry
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