Category Archives: women

Seeing My Male Privilege

Male privilege

Male privilege

By Jonathan Castellanos

I’ve often thought how nice it must be to be white.

Popular, attractive, upper class: these are words I’ve come to associate with whiteness.

But until recently I hadn’t given much thought to privileges I gain from being male. Read the rest of this entry

Anyone Crave The Male Gaze?

oglerOgle: to gaze with sexual desire.

When it comes to feelings about this sort of gaze, women aren’t all of a kind.

I surveyed 44 of my women students for their thoughts. Read the rest of this entry

Women = Natural Nurturers = Less $, Status and Power

Nurturing dad.

Nurturing dad.

Girls are naturally more nurturing than boys, right?

A lot of people think so.

Some scientists think it’s because testosterone blocks male nurturing instincts.

Incidentally, this notion conveniently brings men more money, status and power.

Because if women are natural nurturers then — naturally — they should stay home with children. And keep out of arenas that bestow money, status and power.

What’s the scientific evidence? Read the rest of this entry

Why Don’t Men Slut-Shame Men?

The sexual double standard.

The sexual double standard.

Women are more likely than men to slut-shame women.

Yet men don’t seem to shame men for having sex. Ever.

Instead, the sexual “conqueror” gets high-fives from guys who praise his prowess.

What’s up with that? Read the rest of this entry

Is a C Cup Too Small??? !

cup sizeI read somewhere that most women who want breast augmentation ask for a C cup. But an awful lot of surgeons convince them to get D’s. Or the doctors simply give them a bigger size than they had asked for.

Denise Richards, actress, model and one of Charlie Sheen’s ex’s, said that when she was 19 years old a doctor put in bigger implants than she’d asked for.

Actress, Tara Reid, has a similar story:

I was 34B, but the right one was always bigger than the left. He gave me C’s, and I didn’t want them. At all.

Another woman wanted a breast reduction and lift. Her doctor mostly did “lift”Read the rest of this entry

Beauty Tricks To Remove Your Power

Ashley Judd’s face looked puffy in the promo for her TV series, Missing. Big deal. She’s aged since I last saw her, and maybe she’s gained a little weight.

And then the furor. Everyone talking about Ashley’s face.

So she responded in the Daily Beast. A few lines: Read the rest of this entry

Wonderful Life or Pottersville? You Choose

It's a wonderful life when the community comes together.

It’s a wonderful life when the community comes together.

While indulging my yearly Yuletide ritual — enjoying “It’s A Wonderful Life” — something odd happened:

Mr. Potter’s face morphed into an amalgam of Charles and David Koch.

The Koch brothers are prone to giving huge campaign contributions in return for dismantling the government. AKA legal bribery.

Instead of the community coming together for the good of all, the billionaire Koch Brothers only want to increase their wealth. (Like they need more money!) Read the rest of this entry

What Women Want From Romance

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romance-2Last time I posted the first half of Pamela’s essay on what women want from romance. She had gathered ten women and ten men friends to ask what women want from romance. We’ve heard what the men think. Now it’s the women’s turn, as we continue her essay:  

So, what is it that we woman want? Is it gifts and flowers? Is it fancy dinners and bling? Or, are our ideas of romance more along the lines of that little kiss in public and making us the center of your attention, even if just for a few moments? Let’s find out. Read the rest of this entry

Which Sex Has More Power, Sexually Speaking?

Which sex has more power, sexually speaking?

Which sex has more power, sexually speaking?

Who has more power when it comes to sex, men or women?

Many of us think “the other sex” has more. Probably because we get all hot and bothered when our own power is blocked.

But my students usually think that women have a stronger hold on sexual strings. Why? Because by social convention, women are expected to place limits. Read the rest of this entry

Repression Shutting Down Teen Girl’s Sexuality

Dilemmas of Desire by Deborah Tolman

Dilemmas of Desire by Deborah Tolman

Young women’s experience of sexuality was ignored by social scientists for years.

But about ten years ago San Francisco State professor Deborah Tolman interviewed high school girls who would be in their late 20s today.

Prof. Tolman had expected to unveil young women’s strong yearnings, but instead she found that most were hazy about their desire. It was dulled. Or even nonexistent. Read the rest of this entry

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