Straight vs Gay Slut-Shaming

In straight culture women are often shamed for having sex while men are celebrated.

But things may be reversed in gay culture. “Heather” wrote in to say:

I agree completely that straight women tend to slut-shame other straight women and that straight men congratulate other straight men for their “sexual conquests.”

But in my experience that is not the case in the LBGT+ community. I’m straight myself, but among my gay and lesbian friends things seem to be the opposite: gay men slut-shame gay men, and lesbians congratulate lesbians.

Read the rest of this entry

Girls = Boys in Math

200872411In the US boys outperform girls in math. But we’re an outlier.  As a Slate article describes it:

The only countries with a wider gap favoring boys are Colombia and Liechtenstein. Many Middle Eastern countries—notably Qatar, Jordan, and the U.A.E.—report a significant gender gap in favor of girls (though lower math scores overall). In Hong Kong, Singapore, and South Korea, the gender gap is miniscule, and the math scores are high. Shanghai registers no gender gap between boys and girls—together, they’re outperforming other teenagers across the globe.

Read the rest of this entry

I Slut-Shamed Before I Was Slut-Shamed

By Aili Masuda

I slut-shamed girls before I was slut-shamed, myself.

Yes, as a little girl I succumbed to the standard of humiliating other girls. Now I see that this behavior grew from my own insecurities. And because I didn’t know what it was like to be the target.

But it wasn’t long before I became the target, myself.  Read the rest of this entry

Porn and My Sex Life Don’t Play Well Together

By Miranda

Porn is something that from the beginning of my dating life made me feel very “unworthy.” When I found out that my boyfriend who I had lost my virginity to had been watching porn for the entire span of our relationship, I felt as if someone had just stabbed me in the gut. I felt as if I wasn’t good enough for him. This is a feeling that has not left me really as I’ve gotten older.  Read the rest of this entry

Healing Song: Love More

Love More by Sharon Van Etten

By David Chou

“Love More” is a sorrowful song with a hopeful ending.

A pulsing accordion is the first thing to hit your ears. Then comes the haunting voice of Sharon Van Etten, drawn out and steady. Within moments her lyrics paint a sad picture of domestic turmoil.

In an interview with Pitchfork Van Etten tells the story behind the song. Read the rest of this entry

Be Wonder Woman — Your Way

Wonder Woman (2017)

Why would watching warriors prepare for battle evoke tears of deep emotion?

How could a cartoon character be transformative?

I puzzled over those questions when friends and movie reviewers, alike, shared their experience of Wonder Woman.

It made no sense.

I’ve seen plenty of battles and felt mostly bored: chaotic fighting, and you know who will win anyway.

Wonder Woman is transformative?! I read her comics as a kid… no transformation.

Curious, I went to see the film.

And… as Amazon warrior women practiced their skills tears well up.

What?! Read the rest of this entry

My Story of Sex-Positivity

Sex positivity

By Brittany

Editors note: I’m trying to learn why some women are more sex-positive than others. So I asked my students, if they were interested, to tell me stories of their backgrounds. 

So far I have found a few things that distinguish women who experience more sex-negativity and sexual dysfunction. They — and in my youth I would count myself among them — are more likely to: Read the rest of this entry

What Does Wonder Woman’s World Without Men Mean?

Wonder Woman

“She’s so strong,” the little girl seated next to me at a Brooklyn screening of “Wonder Woman” kept repeating to her mother…

Legions of women I know took daughters, nieces, nephews, mentees or simply went in droves, some of them to women-only screenings — and walked out of theaters with a strange feeling of ferociousness.

So says Jessica Bennett of the New York Times.

I had thought Wonder Woman was just another action flick. But there is so much more. Read the rest of this entry

Biggest Regret? My Silences.

"We realize the importance of our voice when we are silenced." Malala Yousafazi

“We realize the importance of our voice when we are silenced.” Malala Yousafazi

“What I most regretted were my silences,” said Audre Lorde.

The thought came as Ms. Lorde looked back on her life while awaiting word on whether a tumor taken from her breast was malignant.

Now she asks us:

• What tyrannies do you swallow?

• What do you need to say?

• What are the words you do not yet have? Read the rest of this entry

Stealthily Removing Condoms

Stealthing. A violation.

“Stealthing” happens when men covertly remove their condoms during sex.

Alexandra Brodsky is a Yale Law graduate who heard from dozens of victims after publishing her article on the practice in the Columbia Journal of Gender and Law.

Feeling Betrayed

People told her things like,

I felt terribly betrayed, but I didn’t know what to call it, so I didn’t know I was right to be angry, right to be hurt.

Others are taking their case to court.

Victims say stealthing violates their trust and autonomy and brings health risks.

Why do it? And should it be legally prosecuted? Read the rest of this entry

%d bloggers like this: