Why do so many men insist that masculinity is the same thing as toxic masculinity — the violent, aggressive variant that leads to horrors like rape or beatings or terrorism (domestic and foreign)? I wondered about this while talking with some non-feminist acquaintances — I try to reach beyond my feminist choir on a regular basis.
We had gotten onto the subject of the tweetstorm created by Danielle Muscato’s question, “What would you do if all men had a 9 pm curfew?”
The men I spoke with were infuriated, taking the proposal literally and not as a thought experiment. “That would be a human rights violation,” said one. “Women would have nothing to do since most businesses would close at 9 PM,” said another.
Read more@ Good Men Project.
By Kyle Welsh
Virginity, or the lack thereof, plays a big role in how we treat women.
From religious practices to traditional lifestyles, high value is placed on women who have never had sex.
In The Cult of Virginity Jessica Valenti talks about the “virginity mystery” – that is, the realization that there is no medical or social definition for what a virgin actually is. Read the rest of this entry
Contradiction abounds among too many Republican leaders of the male persuasion.
These men are anti-abortion yet fight against contraception — the most effective means of preventing one.
Or they are anti-abortion until they want their partners to get one.
Or they engage in sexual assault even while acting to prevent women and girls from accessing abortion should they be impregnated by such a horrifying act.
It all sounds contradictory. But patriarchy ties it all altogether. Read the rest of this entry
By Pamela Robinson
The internet has “disrupted” courting.
Couples sit side by side, not talking, computers or phones on their laps.
The events of courting, including breaking up, are delivered via text message.
Pornography in all forms is easy to access on the Internet.
How will relationships survive through the twenty-first century? Read the rest of this entry
Why are girls still shamed for being sexually assaulted?
And why is lacking sexual desire still seen as good… a good girl?
In a double standard that does not hold for men? Read the rest of this entry
Sexy models like Brooklyn Decker can make women to feel bad about themselves when women feel like they don’t measure up.
Can we redistribute sex the way we redistribute wealth?
George Mason economist and libertarian Robin Hanson seems to think so.
He proposed that men should start threatening women with violence if their sex demands are not met. The horrifying idea arose in response to a Toronto terrorist attack on women that was sparked by anger over being an involuntary celibate or “incel.” Read the rest of this entry