By S. Abu-Coush
Men are men and women are women?
We don’t learn to be. We just are?
But I didn’t learn gender the way most girls do. And even less the way most Middle Eastern girls do.
And I don’t see myself the way most girls do, either. Read the rest of this entry
Cynthia Nixon of Sex and the City fame announced that she chose to be gay. And she caught hell.
I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me.
Some critics insist she is a biologically-based bisexual.
Others come to her defense. Read the rest of this entry
Mamma, don’t let your daughters grow up to marry gay cowboys.
That’s from a headline I once saw.
You could reverse that:
Mamma, don’t let your gay sons grow up to marry girls.
I get that. Because some of my friends have tried it. Except for the cowboy part. Read the rest of this entry
Some wonder: Is Omar Mateen, who massacred gay men at a nightclub, a homophobic homosexual (too unhappy to be gay)?
I recently posted on a study showing that straight men who aren’t homophobic don’t get too aroused by gay porn. Read the rest of this entry
That’s what Tina Fey’s high school health teacher had warned her class about. Read the rest of this entry
Some folks try to use their own religious rights to tramp down everyone else’s.
A couple examples:
- Contraception: Powerful people who don’t believe in birth control refuse to cover contraception thru their organization’s insurance
- Gay marriage: No cake-baking for gay weddings if you’re against homosexuality
Apparently, religious rights are more important than any other kind. Read the rest of this entry
Researchers at the University of Georgia surveyed young men on the degree of homophobia they felt, as measured by their self-described levels of aversion to gay men, and specifically, the intensity of “dread” they experienced interacting with them. Read the rest of this entry
Women seem to be more sexually fluid than men. Why?
One reason might involve the way we tie sex and emotional connection together for women.
Not to mention that women are more likely to become deeply connected to same sex friends. Read the rest of this entry
Are abusers more likely to target them? Or does something about the attack affect them, or how they see themselves? Read the rest of this entry
They are not quite sure how it all comes together.
A variety of things point to someone being “more likely” to be gay, but none of the following are determinative: Read the rest of this entry