Category Archives: body image

Keep Your Boobs, Get Better Guys

boobsIf I had I been more spiritually evolved, or more grounded at 22 when I got breast implants, I never would have gotten them. Yes I got lots of attention, sexual attention. And for awhile I enjoyed it. But as the saying goes, be careful what you wish for. It became apparent that the attention I received was not from quality people… Why did I mutilate my body to appease the tastes of SOME men? We were all duped by the media, the medical profession, our low self-esteem. I am now ready to have these D cups removed.

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A Feminist Corset? 

corset

The corset. A means to female empowerment?

Why would my wife like corsets? Especially since she’s feminist?

One of my male feminist friends wondered about that.

Meanwhile, the New York Times’ Alexander Fury brought this news alert: the corset has become:

A symbol of empowerment, of sexual freedom, of control. She’s the one holding the laces, the one constructing her own femininity.

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Gossip Magazines Are Like Abusive Boyfriends

By Linda Bakke

Star Magazine promotes violence against women.

Ok, that sounds like a tabloid headline, but the more I look over Star Magazine, the more I’ve been struck by a sense of violence directed at women.

The starlets are constantly attacked for any extra weight, cellulite, bunions, ugly fingers or thick arms. It feels like open season. “Kill the Celebrity” is the name of the game.

One section called “Knifestyles” advocates mutilating women through plastic surgery. With the accompanying message, “You’re not good enough.”

In fact, Star uses the same devices that characterize domestic abusers: watching the victim’s every move, humiliation, stressing the negative rather than the positive aspects of the victim (who is supposedly adored), using “it’s her fault” to launch an attack, and transferring the abuser’s dissatisfaction with life and himself onto the victim. Read the rest of this entry

The Evolution of a Beauty, a Beast and Us

Beauty and the Beast

Beauty and the Beast’s Belle is much evolved from Disney’s early wimpy maidens.

That evolution tells us something about us, too. Read the rest of this entry

Is a C Cup Too Small??? !

cup sizeI read somewhere that most women who want breast augmentation ask for a C cup. But an awful lot of surgeons convince them to get D’s. Or the doctors simply give them a bigger size than they had asked for.

Denise Richards, actress, model and one of Charlie Sheen’s ex’s, said that when she was 19 years old a doctor put in bigger implants than she’d asked for.

Actress, Tara Reid, has a similar story:

I was 34B, but the right one was always bigger than the left. He gave me C’s, and I didn’t want them. At all.

Another woman wanted a breast reduction and lift. Her doctor mostly did “lift”Read the rest of this entry

Anorexia: Physically and Spiritually Dying

I wouldn’t sit with daddy when he was alone in the hospital because I needed to go jogging;

I told Derek not to visit me because I couldn’t throw up when he was there;

I almost failed my comprehensive exams because I was so hungry;

I spent my year at Oxford with my head in the toilet bowl;

I wouldn’t eat the dinner my friends cooked me for my 19th birthday because I knew they had used oil in the recipe;

I told my family not to come to my college graduation because I didn’t want to miss a day at the gym or have to eat a restaurant meal.

I would swear I did not miss the world outside. Lost within myself, I almost died.
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Beauty Tricks To Remove Your Power

Ashley Judd’s face looked puffy in the promo for her TV series, Missing. Big deal. She’s aged since I last saw her, and maybe she’s gained a little weight.

And then the furor. Everyone talking about Ashley’s face.

So she responded in the Daily Beast. A few lines: Read the rest of this entry

Women Distracted By “How They Look” In Bed

Distracted in bed.

Distracted in bed.

“Spectatoring” is the word Masters and Johnson used to describe watching yourself have sex instead of being swept up in sexual pleasure.

You aren’t in the game, you are watching from the sidelines — present and absent all at once.

To get a sense of how commonly young women get distracted, I asked this survey question:

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An Insecure Journey to “Beauty” 

Victoria's Secret Angel

Victoria’s Secret Angel

By Sarah Merrick

Each year around the holidays 9 million viewers and I tune into the one-hour insecurity ride that is the “Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show.”

Weeks later I’m still dazed by self-doubt. Is that how boys think I should look?

Apparently.

The Super Bowl soon follows with guys drooling over the large breasts, tiny waist, and flowing blonde hair of a model savoring a Carl’s Jr. burger. (Likely the only meal she’s had in days.) Her name in 2016 was Charlotte McKinney — and the ad was voted one of the Super Bowl’s best. Read the rest of this entry

At Age 12 I Started Starving Myself

anorexia1By Iliana Revuelta

I’ve never been a size 0 girl.

As a kid I was bullied for being overweight, and every night I cried myself to sleep.

My parents were busy raising my two baby sisters, so I was left to raise myself. Without guidance I read magazine articles on how to lose weight.

When I turned 12 I began starving myself. I ate maybe one meal a day. Or none. And added crazy exercise routines to my crazy diet.

At family gatherings I ate very little, or watched other people enjoy their delicious food.

I began to hate food. If I ate I felt like the worst human being — who should be punished with an extra mile of running.

My weight went down. And unfortunately, so did my metabolism. Read the rest of this entry

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