I Look Sexy, But I Don’t Feel Pleasure
I recently talked about “spectatoring” — watching yourself have sex instead of enjoying pleasure.
After surveying my women students I learned that three-quarters spent at least some of their time in bed distracted by how they looked. Most worried that they weren’t “hot” enough. And most also said that their concerns harmed their sexual experience to some degree.
But some women did think they were attractive. In fact, when I surveyed students about the last time they had sex, one young woman replied, “I think I looked pretty good.” Read the rest of this entry
Men Upset About Treatment? Turn It Around.
A lot of guys are angry at so-called reverse racism and reverse sexism.
So I tried imagining the world turned around. Read the rest of this entry
Women-Parts As Urinals
Sociological Images has quite a collection of women-parts as urinals, and sometimes sinks.
Looks like equal parts sex and denigration of women.
From Stephanie Medley-Rath: urinals shaped like women’s mouths (source)
Stirring Up Feminazis
What’s the difference between being powerful and merely feeling powerful?
Too often people chase the feeling and give up the real thing.
I sense the phenomenon when frat boys try to feel powerful by intimidating women.
Or when feminists are called “feminazis.” Read the rest of this entry
Is a C Cup Too Small??? !
I read somewhere that most women who want breast augmentation ask for a C cup. But an awful lot of surgeons convince them to get D’s. Or the doctors simply give them a bigger size than they had asked for.
Denise Richards, actress, model and one of Charlie Sheen’s ex’s, said that when she was 19 years old a doctor put in bigger implants than she’d asked for.
Actress, Tara Reid, has a similar story:
I was 34B, but the right one was always bigger than the left. He gave me C’s, and I didn’t want them. At all.
Another woman wanted a breast reduction and lift. Her doctor mostly did “lift”: Read the rest of this entry
Men Needn’t Hate Pretty Women
There must be a lot of men who hate pretty women because Google constantly brings them — or people who want to understand them – to me via this post: “Men Who Hate Pretty Women.”
They come, and they say things like this:
Beauty makes me extremely angry, so much that I can’t stand to look at beautiful women in the street … She’d want somebody taller, richer, more muscular, more handsome, more whatever it is that women want.
What Women Want From Romance
Last time I posted the first half of Pamela’s essay on what women want from romance. She had gathered ten women and ten men friends to ask what women want from romance. We’ve heard what the men think. Now it’s the women’s turn, as we continue her essay:
So, what is it that we woman want? Is it gifts and flowers? Is it fancy dinners and bling? Or, are our ideas of romance more along the lines of that little kiss in public and making us the center of your attention, even if just for a few moments? Let’s find out. Read the rest of this entry
Repression Shutting Down Teen Girl’s Sexuality
Young women’s experience of sexuality was ignored by social scientists for years.
But about ten years ago San Francisco State professor Deborah Tolman interviewed high school girls who would be in their late 20s today.
Prof. Tolman had expected to unveil young women’s strong yearnings, but instead she found that most were hazy about their desire. It was dulled. Or even nonexistent. Read the rest of this entry
Women, Objects of Desire (Even for Women?)
Sexy lady’s bodies have been the focus of pop culture for decades.
Maybe that’s why even straight women were more aroused by a nude woman than by a nude man in one study, when measuring blood flow to the vagina. Some research suggests culture may be playing a role.
Is this true? A student of mine wondered. Read the rest of this entry