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Dating Lessons From OkCupid
Ok, Cupid
by Lisa Wade, PhD @ Sociological Images
Dating site OKCupid did an analysis of 500,000 inquiry messages to determine what keywords correlate most strongly with getting a reply. It has some great lessons about dating and some counter-stereotypical news about what heterosexual women want from men. Read the rest of this entry
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Feminism Kills Japanese Libido?
Japanese libido
Japan is dead last in sexual satisfaction. Some blame feminism.
Really?
- Singles aged 18-34 who don’t want a romantic relationship: Men: 28% Women: 23%
- Singles aged 16 to 24 who are uninterested in sexual relationships: Women: 45% Men: 25%
“Grass-eating boys” or “herbivores,” as the guys are called, have no real interest in: Read the rest of this entry
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Virginity: Double Binds & Double Standards
Lost your virginity?
By Sabrina Szpetkowski
A close friend called me one morning, crying and asking me to come to her house.
When I got there I found her crumpled up on her bed. She told me that she had lost her virginity to her boyfriend the night before and she felt disgusting. She worried that if they ever broke up she wouldn’t be able to find someone else who would want to be with her because she wasn’t a virgin. Read the rest of this entry
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Women Aren’t Visual? It Depends
Marky Mark
You say that most women don’t find the penis visually arousing. Really? I, personally, find the penis arousing… Do you have any studies to back up your statement?
That’s a question from “Claire.” Read the rest of this entry
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Sexual Satisfaction Tied to Gender Equality
Gender equality = sexual equality
When I ask my students how many of them have heard of girls being slut-shamed in high school, they all have.
Meanwhile, as I’ve mentioned before, around half of American women have experienced sexual dysfunction: low desire, no desire, painful sex and difficulty climaxing.
Women enjoy sexuality much more in places where women and men have greater equality. Read the rest of this entry
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Caitlyn Jenner: More Than Sexy?
Caitlyn Jenner
We rejoice at Caitlyn Jenner’s courage and happiness as she transitions, bodily, to womanhood.
But as she “came out” so did some disturbing truths about how we value women, says Rhonda Garelick in a New York Times piece. In a Vanity Fair spread,
Ms. Jenner poses in skintight dresses, a cinched black lace corset and two different gold evening gowns … She lounges on a sofa, peers into mirrors or reclines with her head thrown back, eyes closed… (appearing) languid and glamorous, her body still and on display rather than performing any activity…
This seems less the liberation of a true self than a reminder of the straitjacket requirements of acceptable, desirable womanhood.
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Why Endure Excruciating Hookups?
Bad sex
Some women enjoy hooking up when it’s “friends with benefits.” Or if not friends, at least sex without malevolence.
Other times ya gotta wonder why they do it.
Women having bad sex
Like women who have sex with 13 men (at different times) but without pleasure. Because it’s about his pleasure and not hers. Or women who feel reduced to sex toys. Or women who “just want to get it over with.” Or women who say, Read the rest of this entry
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Making Peace With My Big Boobs
The well-endowed actress, Christina Hendricks
I thought that with cleavage came power. But as my cleavage amassed, I found the opposite to be true. My ample cups seemed to hint at certain unpleasant possibilities. Like, maybe I was dumb. Maybe I was slutty. Maybe I liked it when people gawked at my breasts, and when the guy driving that van rolled down the window to say “nice tits, love” as I walked past in my school uniform.
Not!
That’s from Chloe Pantazi who wrote a piece for Salon entitled, “My boobs, my burden.” Read the rest of this entry
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Hooking Up Is Fun. Or Dull. Or Painful
Hooking up can be dull or painful. If it’s about male superiority.
Some people like hooking up.
But it can be dull, or even painful – when it’s used to create male superiority.
Hooking up is painful
Kristy was making out with a guy, debating how far she wanted to go, when he stood up and ordered, “Get down on your knees.”
She froze. Read the rest of this entry
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Want To Be Objectified? Careful What You Wish For
Sexy David Beckham
I know women find fit men sexy, but I believe that is the wrong word in a way. If a woman can’t cum from just looking at the male body, then I don’t see that as sexy. Sexy to me means you’re deserving of someone’s desire or orgasm. Most guys are oblivious to the fact that most girls don’t get that aroused from looking at their abs, muscles and penis.
That’s from Eric U. We recently heard from him when I posted another of his comments, wishing that women objectified men.
Be careful what you wish for. Read the rest of this entry
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