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#Metoo: My Story Of Recovery

By R.G.

Seven years ago I was sexually assaulted.

I don’t owe anyone a story and I still have difficulty assessing what happened.

My story is not sensational. It did not make headlines. But yes, it happened and it is important to share.

I was in an emotionally manipulative and sexually abusive relationship. I waited and waited for his affirmation of what happened in order to validate my experience, but it never seemed to come.  Read the rest of this entry

Safe v Dangerous Fraternities

Fraternity rape culture

Fraternity rape culture

When a Dartmouth frat brother invited “Lisa” to a house party she felt honored, and eagerly accepted. But after arriving she had just a couple of drinks and passed out.

The next thing she remembers is waking up at a hospital.

Sitting in her hospital bed she noticed bruises on her chest that looked like bites. Lisa told Janet Reitman at Rolling Stone, Read the rest of this entry

Modesty Objectifies Says Nude Woman

Posed in nothing but sheer black polkadot stockings, red patent leather shoes and a red hair clip, Egyptian blogger, Aliaa Mahdy struck a blow to the objectification of women.

Strange. We usually hear that nudity objectifies. Read the rest of this entry

“Last Tango” Director Must Be “Free” To Rape

Maria Schneider and Marlon Brando, Last Tango In Paris

Maria Schneider and Marlon Brando, Last Tango In Paris

Last Tango In Paris director Bernardo Bertolucci helped Marlon Brando rape actress Maria Schneider in the film’s infamous “butter” scene.

In a graphic assault, Brando used a stick of butter to anally violate Ms. Schneider, who learned about the scene just before doing it: Read the rest of this entry

Empathizing with Rapists Instead of Victims

Brock Turner

Brock Turner

Why do we so often empathize with the privileged even when they commit brutal crimes?

Rape is just “20 minutes of action.” And it’s non-violent.

That’s how the father of convicted rapist, Brock Turner, saw it.

Judge Persky was also blinded to the victim’s pain by the predator’s distress.  Read the rest of this entry

Fraternity Female Degradation Ceremonies

End the violence against women!

End the violence against women!

In college I grew to hate frat boys. They didn’t always deserve it, but too many did.

At San Diego State “The Daily Aztec” reported on a fraternity accused of shouting racial epithets at strippers. Read the rest of this entry

Why Does Mayor Blame Assault Victims?

Henriette Reker, Mayor of Cologne, Germany

Henriette Reker, Mayor of Cologne, Germany

Why would Henriette Reker, the mayor of Cologne, Germany, blame women for being sexually assaulted?

You’ve probably heard about Cologne’s New Year’s Eve celebration, where groups of men — maybe more than 1,000 of them — surrounded individual women, groped them and stole their belongings. There were at least two rape accusations.

Yet the mayor merely told women to keep more than an arm’s length away from men? That’s hard to do in a congested square, where people are pushing to get in.

Or, maybe women should just avoid crowded festivities altogether? Read the rest of this entry

Does Provocative Dress Ever Cause Rape?

Some friends were discussing the “Slut Walks” that keep popping up, and someone asked whether provocative clothing ever plays a role in rape. Interesting that “provocative” is used to describe a style of dress, suggesting that clothes actually provoke something. Attention? Desire? Rape? Read the rest of this entry

Back to School, I Mean Rape Culture

SUNY Cortland men post back to school sign

SUNY Cortland men post back to school sign

As college women returned to school this fall, some were welcomed back to rape culture.

A few college boys who haven’t yet grown into man-sized shoes unravelled banners shouting:

Freshman Daughter Drop-Off

Hope your baby girl is ready for a good time

Go ahead and drop mom off too Read the rest of this entry

High School “Salute” Spurs Sexism

Owen Labrie and St. Paul’s School

Owen Labrie and St. Paul’s School

Owen Labrie is charged with raping a fifteen year old while trying to “score” in a high school game dubbed “the Senior Salute.”

Whether or not he is guilty, the game institutionalizes sexism. And it’s the sort of thing that can spur assault.  Read the rest of this entry

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