Sexy Men Can Seem Gay
Imagine men in Speedos plastered all over billboards, drawing your attention to this product or that.
Sexy? Or does it seem kind of gay?
A lot of women think it seems kind of gay. But why is that?
“Sexy” and objectified images are almost always meant for the male gaze in popular culture.
So when a woman sees something sexy or objectified, she’s grown used to thinking (unconsciously) that it’s meant for the male gaze.
So as she views a sexy man from this male perspective, it will seem gay.
When sociologist, Lisa Wade, attended Tale of the Cocktail, an expo themed “Seven Deadly Sins” illustrated lust this way:
Interesting that what is thought to be sexy to straight men is defined as “sexy” for everyone, she says, adding:
Thought Experiment: If nearly naked men had been dancing in those columns, do you think the audience would have thought “hot men for the women!” or “how gay!”? I think many, if not most, would have thought “how gay!”
A female gaze that validates women’s sexual subjectivity and the sexual objectification of men is simply less accessible for both women and men.
I think if men were dancing in the columns, an objectifying male gaze would still be at play, except this time the gaze would have been aimed at men.
Sounds about right.
Posted on October 28, 2015, in feminism, men, objectification, psychology, sex and sexuality, sexism, women and tagged men, psychology, sex, sexism, sexual objectification, sexuality, women. Bookmark the permalink. 59 Comments.