Women Aren’t Visual? It Depends
You say that most women don’t find the penis visually arousing. Really? I, personally, find the penis arousing… Do you have any studies to back up your statement?
That’s a question from “Claire.”
Among those using a feminine name when commenting on my blog, only two — including “Claire” — have said they get turned on by a guy’s package and find it hard to believe that all women don’t.
Meanwhile, porn sure makes it seem like women get all hot and bothered at the sight of a cock.
Research suggests otherwise. And porn stars are actresses, after all.
A Billion Wicked Web Searches
Want to know what women Google when searching for sexual stimulation? Neuroscientist, Ogi Ogas, tells us in his book A Billion Wicked Thoughts.
Looking at all sexual searches by both women and men, only 2.4% are directed at penises (“penis,” “giant cock,” etc.) And men are much more likely to make this search than women are. Plus, men are much more interested in large penises than women are.
If women got so aroused by seeing a cock, you’d think they’d make a lot more searches in the privacy of home. Way more than around 1%.
Eye-tracking studies of non-erotic images also find men more likely to zero in on male crotches. Women aren’t that interested.
Playgirl goes bankrupt
There’s a reason why Playgirl went bankrupt even as a plethora of girlie magazines and websites thrive.
Plenty of women will pay money for celebrity biographies of Leonardo DiCaprio or Johnny Depp, hoping to learn about their love lives. But few will pay to see nude photos of men. As Ogas describes it:
Playgirl was the mirror image of Playboy, complete with graphic, high quality pictures of naked men (though there were no penises in the very first issue, and no erect penises for several years)…
Subscriptions paled in comparison to Playboy (which had plenty of competition). The magazine nearly went out of business the first year. Until gay customers started subscribing. Here’s the AOL search history of one customer:
gay frat stories, gay drunk college, gay college, nude photos of men, Heath Ledger nude – Playgirl
And most of Playgirl’s advertising was for gay sites.
Meanwhile, movies rarely give glimpses of penises to arouse women and boost ticket sales. Yet we get plenty of peeks at women’s breasts.
Do you remember Anthony Wiener’s crotch shot heard around the world? When he mistakenly tweeted the general public. As I wrote at the time:
Tracy Clark-Flory over at Salon put out a call on Twitter to get women’s reactions to this sort of sexting. Plenty of women wanted to see a man’s chest. But with few exceptions the response to THIS was complete revulsion. When asked whether crotch shots “do it” for them, one tweeter replied, “If by ‘do it’ you mean ‘send me to the toilet retching,’ then yes, they do.”
Flashers seem similarly clueless. Message boards suggest that flashers expect women to get turned on. At least one man finally “got it,” saying, “I simply can’t do it anymore… I found that I was basically just offending woman after woman.”
Women look at men’s faces and women’s bodies
Women actually seem to be more visually interested in women’s bodies than men’s. As I wrote in another post:
Meredith Chivers, a highly regarded psychologist at Queen’s University in Kingston, Ontario, showed men and women, both straight and gay, short film clips of heterosexual sex, gay and lesbian sex, a man masturbating, a woman masturbating, a nude well-toned man walking, a fit woman doing nude calisthenics, and bonobos (an ape species) having sex.
Chivers then asked the men and women to rate how aroused they felt. But she also used probes to gauge penile swelling and vaginal blood flow.
Men’s responses were as expected.
But women’s genitals and minds seemed to belong to entirely different people. For instance, hetero women’s bodies were more aroused by the exercising woman than by the strolling man – though they claimed otherwise.
In other research, she asked men and women to wear goggles that track eye movement, and had them look at pictures of heterosexual couples in foreplay. The men gazed mostly at the women – their faces and bodies. But the women spent equal time looking at both sexes, with their eyes focused on the men’s faces and the women’s bodies.
So apparently women can be visual. Particularly if they’re looking at women. And that’s probably because our culture strongly eroticizes women’s bodies: selectively hiding and revealing their breasts and butts, creating sexual tension. And then obsessing over these “so sexy” body parts. By comparison, in tribal cultures women’s body parts are just no big deal.
Some women are turned on by nude men
Some women do seem to be aroused by nude men. Like the few who have written to me to say they are.
Or, University of Montréal sex researchers asked men and women about their fantasies. While women were much more likely to fantasize about watching two women making love, 19% fantasized about two guys.
And among women who watch porn, gay male porn is one of their bigger interests. But keep in mind that only 8% of women admit to porn-viewing. And when Dr. Ogas examined male and female Internet searches, he found that men were ten times more likely to watch porn.
Women who watch porn are different from other women (otherwise, all women would watch porn). And these may be the women who are interested in penises. But that’s not necessarily why they watch gay men. More on that later.
So sure, some women do seem to get aroused by the male body. But then:
A person = biologically influenced personalities + social interactions + culture
Our culture does very little to eroticize the penis. But because we are influenced by things outside of culture, some women can end up finding the male package pretty enticing.
Careful what you wish for
A lot of guys feel bad that women don’t get aroused by the penis in the same way that guys get aroused by breasts. But as I recently said, “Count your blessings.” For more on that, see this post: Want To Be Objectified? Careful What You Wish For
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Posted on June 22, 2015, in body image, men, objectification, pornography, psychology, sex and sexuality, women and tagged are women visual, men, objectification, pornography, psychology, sex, sexuality, women. Bookmark the permalink. 123 Comments.