Category Archives: women
Caitlyn Jenner: More Than Sexy?
We rejoice at Caitlyn Jenner’s courage and happiness as she transitions, bodily, to womanhood.
But as she “came out” so did some disturbing truths about how we value women, says Rhonda Garelick in a New York Times piece. In a Vanity Fair spread,
Ms. Jenner poses in skintight dresses, a cinched black lace corset and two different gold evening gowns … She lounges on a sofa, peers into mirrors or reclines with her head thrown back, eyes closed… (appearing) languid and glamorous, her body still and on display rather than performing any activity…
This seems less the liberation of a true self than a reminder of the straitjacket requirements of acceptable, desirable womanhood.
Why Endure Excruciating Hookups?
Some women enjoy hooking up when it’s “friends with benefits.” Or if not friends, at least sex without malevolence.
Other times ya gotta wonder why they do it.
Women having bad sex
Like women who have sex with 13 men (at different times) but without pleasure. Because it’s about his pleasure and not hers. Or women who feel reduced to sex toys. Or women who “just want to get it over with.” Or women who say, Read the rest of this entry
Mocked because my name ends in “SHE”
By Mahi Chitti
I grew up being mocked by both my peers and my elders because my name ends in “SHE.”
Maharshi.
The shaming pushed me to invent a nickname, Mahi, so that my name would end with “HE.”
At the time I thought it was pretty cool. And having a name that ended in “he” made me feel a lot better about myself. Read the rest of this entry
Making Peace With My Big Boobs
I thought that with cleavage came power. But as my cleavage amassed, I found the opposite to be true. My ample cups seemed to hint at certain unpleasant possibilities. Like, maybe I was dumb. Maybe I was slutty. Maybe I liked it when people gawked at my breasts, and when the guy driving that van rolled down the window to say “nice tits, love” as I walked past in my school uniform.
Not!
That’s from Chloe Pantazi who wrote a piece for Salon entitled, “My boobs, my burden.” Read the rest of this entry
Women Must Be Fit; Men Can Be Flabby
Can men be valued even if their bodies appear flabby and “gross”? What about women? Can they be? Maybe. But men may have more leeway.
While looking thru the archives at Sociological Images, I ran into this. The pictures are from a few years back but they’re still relevant. Dr. Lisa Wade makes some interesting points here.
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By Lisa Wade @ Sociological Images
Mercedes DeM. sent in this Vanity Fair cover (for April 2009)…

…spoofing this previous cover: Read the rest of this entry
Feminists Like Men More Than Non-Feminists Do
Feminists hate men?
Some people think so.
But a University of Houston study found that feminists like men more than non-feminists do.
That was true regardless of gender. Feminist men and women felt less hostility toward men than non-feminists of either sex did.
Maybe it’s not so surprising. Read the rest of this entry
Hooking Up Is Fun. Or Dull. Or Painful
Some people like hooking up.
But it can be dull, or even painful – when it’s used to create male superiority.
Hooking up is painful
Kristy was making out with a guy, debating how far she wanted to go, when he stood up and ordered, “Get down on your knees.”
She froze. Read the rest of this entry
Want To Be Objectified? Careful What You Wish For
I know women find fit men sexy, but I believe that is the wrong word in a way. If a woman can’t cum from just looking at the male body, then I don’t see that as sexy. Sexy to me means you’re deserving of someone’s desire or orgasm. Most guys are oblivious to the fact that most girls don’t get that aroused from looking at their abs, muscles and penis.
That’s from Eric U. We recently heard from him when I posted another of his comments, wishing that women objectified men.
Be careful what you wish for. Read the rest of this entry
Why Are Men Surprised About Rape?
How could it be that a smart, worldly journalist knew so little about sexual assault?
When Alyssa Rosenberg of the Washington Post reviewed Jon Krakauer’s new book, Missoula: Rape and the Justice System in a College Town, she wondered why men are so often surprised by the trauma of rape, and the difficulties victims face gaining justice.
Why, she wondered, did it take a personal experience of a young friend he was close to for him to “get it”? Read the rest of this entry
Why Aren’t Men Objectified?
Women do find men sexy. But we don’t objectify and fetishize their body parts. Not too many of us, anyway.
And so Playgirl goes bankrupt while a plethora of “girlie” magazines thrive.
Yet in some places women’s bodies aren’t fetishized, either. Like in tribal societies where women walk around wearing the equivalent of a G-string. And no one cares.
That clues us in to why male body parts aren’t fetishized. Read the rest of this entry









