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My First “Sexual Experiences” Felt Demeaning

Stop sexual assault

By Fe Hmelar

I’ve never had a boyfriend, never gone on a date, or even been kissed. But I have been sexually assaulted. Twice.

And that is partly why I have never dated. Read the rest of this entry

Good Men Defending Title IX Protections from Sexual Assault

Title IX protects both women and men.Education Secretary Betsy DeVos wants to weaken Title IX 

Education Secretary Betsy DeVoss wants to weaken Title IX protections from sexual harassment and violence in schools.

Why should men join in the fight to block her proposed changes? Men, like readers of this blog, seek justice and equality.

And, as it turns out, Title IX protections help men too!

Read more at The Good Men Project.

Domination Culture’s Assault on Title IX

Title IX protects from sexual crimes on campus are under threat.

Why is Education Secretary Betsy DeVoss fighting against the interests of other women by weakening Title IX protections from sexual harassment and violence in schools, narrowing the standards used to determine what counts as a crime and making it more difficult for victims to come forward? 

Some women accept the “patriarchal bargain” which bestows power and privilege in return for betraying their sisters. Others have unconsciously internalized patriarchy so that it simply seems natural and normal. Still others seek to advance domination culture because it richly rewards themselves, and patriarchy’s strong arm helps uphold that system. Read the rest of this entry

Pro-Sex Assault, Anti-Condom, Anti-Abortion

Trump and Kavanaugh

Contradiction abounds among too many Republican leaders of the male persuasion. 

These men are anti-abortion yet fight against contraception — the most effective means of preventing one. 

Or they are anti-abortion until they want their partners to get one. 

Or they engage in sexual assault even while acting to prevent women and girls from accessing abortion should they be impregnated by such a horrifying act. 

It all sounds contradictory. But patriarchy ties it all altogether. Read the rest of this entry

Her Defense: I Had No Desire

Her desire is offensive and shamed. His is celebrated.

Why are girls still shamed for being sexually assaulted?

And why is lacking sexual desire still seen as good… a good girl?

In a double standard that does not hold for men? Read the rest of this entry

#Metoo: My Story Of Recovery

By R.G.

Seven years ago I was sexually assaulted.

I don’t owe anyone a story and I still have difficulty assessing what happened.

My story is not sensational. It did not make headlines. But yes, it happened and it is important to share.

I was in an emotionally manipulative and sexually abusive relationship. I waited and waited for his affirmation of what happened in order to validate my experience, but it never seemed to come.  Read the rest of this entry

The Rapist In Our Minds

Rose McGowanYou’ve probably heard Rose McGowan’s powerful speech to The Women’s Convention of Detroit, which included these words:

Hollywood may seem like it’s an isolated thing, but it is not. It is the messaging system for your mind. It is the mirror that you’re given to look into…

[Movies are] told through 96 percent males in the Directors’ Guild of America… We are given one view. And I know the men behind that view. And they should not be in your mind and they should not be in my mind. It’s time to clean house.

This comes in response to accusations of sexual abuse by Hollywood producer, Harvey Weinstein, and others.

Media reflects and reinforces culture

Media reflects, reinforces, and helps to create the larger culture. Read the rest of this entry

Why Do Flashers Flash?

flasherWhy do flashers flash?

I’ve always wanted to know. Their discussion boards might clue us in. If you check them out you might see comments like this: Read the rest of this entry

“Last Tango” Director Must Be “Free” To Rape

Maria Schneider and Marlon Brando, Last Tango In Paris

Maria Schneider and Marlon Brando, Last Tango In Paris

Last Tango In Paris director Bernardo Bertolucci helped Marlon Brando rape actress Maria Schneider in the film’s infamous “butter” scene.

In a graphic assault, Brando used a stick of butter to anally violate Ms. Schneider, who learned about the scene just before doing it: Read the rest of this entry

Trump: It’s Only Words

Trump at the second debate.

Trump at the second debate.

Trump insults women and others but his actions are to the contrary. He hires women on an equal basis, like his daughter Ivanka and his campaign manager Kellyanne Conway. He’s more bark than bite.

That’s from one of my readers.   Read the rest of this entry

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