I Can’t Stop Staring At Other Women
He’s all eyes.
Looking at other women has become a big problem for me.
I want to learn how to stop. I mean no harm, but it upsets my wife and hurts her. She says I lose touch with reality and become a different person — and don’t even notice her.
That’s from a 42-year-old man whose been married 16 years. He’s totally satisfied with his wife, he says, and has no interest in anyone else.
But he feels he has no control over his ogling. Read the rest of this entry
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Pro-Life! But Don’t Care If You Die.
Portia Gibbs of Belhaven, North Carolina
“Pro-lifers” are poised to create 9,800 unnecessary deaths per year.
That’s what will happen if Supreme Court Justices Scalia, Thomas and Alito — the rightist of the right — cobble together a ruling against the Affordable Care Act, aka, Obamacare.
Pro-life?
Meanwhile, “pro-life” Congress members have voted against the Affordable Care Act at least 54 times. If they ever got their way, that’s 9,800 more deaths a year.
Pro-life?
And since so many “pro-life” governors have rejected parts of Obamacare, people are already dying.
Like 48-year-old Portia Gibbs of Belhaven, North Carolina. Read the rest of this entry
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Who Wears the Pants?
Men and women: a history of costume, gender, and power
Pants symbolize power — partly because men wore them long before women dared try them on, and men have historically held power.
But pants empower in practical ways, too. Like allowing much more freedom to move.
Once upon a time, women wore heavy skirts and petticoats that were bogged down with wire machinery. So stair climbing required care to prevent tripping over skirts. Even sitting could be tricky, lest a hoop skirt rise and reveal all.
Big skirts meant horses were mounted “side saddle,” allowing women to exert only “gentle control.”
Meanwhile, running and biking were difficult, which limited a woman’s power and independence, as well. Read the rest of this entry
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Men v Women: How Flexible Is Orientation?
Women’s sexual orientation is more fluid than men’s, says University of Utah professor, Lisa Diamond. Well, women have a basic orientation, she says, but it seems to be a bit easier for women to crossover. For both cultural and biological reasons.
Research from the University of Montréal seems to bear that out. The study had simply looked at how common different sex fantasies were. But comparing men and women, you see more fluidity among females. Read the rest of this entry
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Women Are Passive? Think Again
Rosie the Riveter
Most of us think women are more passive than men. It’s natural, right? Men’s testosterone makes them tough and assertive.
Think again.
Actually, it’s hard to untangle the effects of biology and society.
In fact, it’s hard to untangle the effects of biology, alone.
Testosterone makes men aggressive?
Yes, men have more testosterone. But: Read the rest of this entry
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Cross-Dressing’s Erotic Side
Grayson Perry, in drag
Being a transvestite is a complex cocktail of motivations. It’s different for everyone, but there’s often a strong sexual component to cross-dressing, although trannies sometimes find it hard to admit this. I feel it’s like the elephant in the room. I feel it’s really there, but nobody’s talking about it.
Maybe it’s this erotic dimension which is the hardest part for others to accept.
That’s what artist and cross-dresser, Grayson Perry thinks.
“Vivienne,” over at Bluestocking Blue began blogging to better understand why “she” feels compelled to cross-dress male-to-female. Read the rest of this entry
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Confidence: A People Magnet
It works!
Confidence is a people magnet. It’s also good at drawing emotionally healthier people to you.
And, it’s healthy to have confidence even when you are alone.
But how do you get it? Read the rest of this entry
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Public Education Wants to Control YOU
Public education is bad, say those who have much to gain by disbanding it
Public education is a plot to manage the people!
Or at best, a waste of time and money.
Some on the far right seek to suppress education, whether a Wisconsin Republican or the Taliban.
Now why is that? Read the rest of this entry
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Shrinking Women, Hulking Men
The Hulk
Today’s woman may be a CEO, legislator, minister, action hero…
But as the sexes grow more similar, their bodies — at least in media — are diverging.
Men are getting bigger and women are getting smaller — except for their busts. Read the rest of this entry
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Handholding, Hand Jobs, and Intimacy
I recently admitted my surprise that some people find handholding more intimate than a hand job.
And I admitted that, for me, the “aloof intimacy” of non-emotional sex ranges from unappealing to disturbing.
And then I asked people who saw things differently — both on my blog and among my friends — to tell me how they felt.
Here’s what they said — plus a few more thoughts: Read the rest of this entry
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