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Does Living Together Prevent Divorce?
Thinking about living together before marriage?
Many young people want to live with their intended before marriage, in hopes of avoiding divorce.
Like Ben, a 22-year-old from Pennsylvania:
I think if you do end up marrying that person, you can understand their habits better. You can be more sure.
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We Like People Who Like Us
What attracts?
Just knowing that someone likes us spurs attraction to them.
In one experiment a young woman acted interested in men via eye contact, leaning toward them, and listening attentively. Afterward, the men said they liked her very much.
In fact, “liking” — or not — can be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
If you expect someone won’t like you, you probably won’t act like you like them. And then they won’t like you. This has been borne out in experiments, too. Read the rest of this entry
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Repression: Not What You Think It Is
A culture of sexual repression
Misconceptions surround sexual repression. And both women and men can be confused.
Some women feel insulted if anyone suggests they might be repressed.
And conversations with guys have made me realize that plenty of them think that repression means, “I really want to have sex with you but I’m going to consciously repress the idea.”
Repression isn’t quite like that. Read the rest of this entry
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Don’t Bully: The Kind Campaign
Lauren Paul and Molly Thompson
My junior year in high school, there was one girl who didn’t want to be my friend. She turned my whole group against me. We were also all on the dance team, so on water breaks, I sometimes had fake phone conversations so they thought I had friends.
That’s how Molly Thompson endured high school.
Lauren Paul was tortured every single day of high school by a group of girls who were angry because a boy liked her instead of one of them.
Lauren and Molly met while studying at Pepperdine University. After sharing their stories, they founded The Kind Campaign: Read the rest of this entry
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My Polyamory Journey
By William Albert Baldwin
A few weeks ago, a woman invited me to her apartment, then proceeded to interview me for the role of her boyfriend/
lover/escort.
Since I write about polyamorous relationships and since I list myself as “in an open relationship” on Facebook, she figured I must be “available.”
Besides, I’m a guy; aren’t guys always ready for a willing woman?
In short: No. Read the rest of this entry
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Do better looking people have better personalities?
Beauty: Just skin deep
By Lisa Wade, PhD @ Sociological Images
Do better looking people have better personalities?
People seem to think so.
At one time OkCupid gave users the opportunity to rate each other twice: once for personality and once for looks. The two were strikingly correlated. Read the rest of this entry
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Men: More Likely to Separate Love & Sex?
sex v love
Men are more likely than women to separate love and sex, right?
Men are more interested in no-strings sex, and they are less likely to be distressed the next day.
A while back a New York Times piece advocating open relationships discussed how it’s typically easier for gay men, compared with straight or lesbian couples, to open their relationships — for that reason.
But is it true? Read the rest of this entry
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Guys Just Want One Thing
Guys just want one thing.
The belief is so widespread that we needn’t say what the one thing is.
Yet the truism isn’t true.
You may have heard that since there are more women than men on college campuses these days, women are pressured to do sex the way men like it: No strings attached. Read the rest of this entry
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Red sex is for girls; Blue is for boys?
Red sex, Blue sex
When you think of red state sexuality, images of Bible believers saving themselves for marriage — or at least keeping their numbers down — may come to mind.
No wonder plenty of Southerners favor pastors and politicians who preach sex after marriage, abstinence education, no contraception, and shuttering Planned Parenthood.
And blue state sexuality? Full of “friends with benefits” and casual hookups, right? Read the rest of this entry
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Men, Myths & Female Pleasure
You understand how to fix your car. You can recite hockey stats like a scout. You understand renovations. You are good at your job. So why can’t you figure out a clitoris? The G-Spot? Do you really know if she’s faking it?
It is staggering the number of females in a longterm heterosexual marriage or relationship who tell me they rarely orgasm unless they do it themselves. The percentage is so high that I am nervous about how believable it would sound if I ventured a guess. The words, vast majority, have a truthful ring to them. Many women admit that they used to have more pleasure. Often women will tell me that their partner tries to pleasure them. More often than not, however, it’s tempting to just “lie back and dream of England”. So what is the big deal? Why is this so hard?
It really isn’t. It…
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