Red sex is for girls; Blue is for boys?
When you think of red state sexuality, images of Bible believers saving themselves for marriage — or at least keeping their numbers down — may come to mind.
No wonder plenty of Southerners favor pastors and politicians who preach sex after marriage, abstinence education, no contraception, and shuttering Planned Parenthood.
And blue state sexuality? Full of “friends with benefits” and casual hookups, right?
Red is for girls; blue is for boys?
When you think about it, red state sex resembles female sexuality while blue states “do it” like guys.
Except that dogma and behavior don’t always match.
Women and “reds” are both more monogamous?
But who are all the players having sex with? Men can’t be all promiscuous if women are “monogamish.”
Bring out a lie detector (or what looks like one) and — it turns out — straight women and men have sex at just the same rate.
Red and blue are a lot alike
Image and behavior don’t match when it comes to red and blue states, either, say sociolgists, Mark Regnerus and Jeremy Uecker, in their book, Premarital Sex in America.
Surprise, surprise, young people all over the States are a lot alike. They have plenty of sex. They use – or don’t use – contraception at similar rates. They have plenty of abortions. And if anyone’s hooking up more, it’s the Bible Belters.
Still, most Americans, whatever their color, put marriage and family on a pedestal.
But there are differences.
Red states: idealistic early adopters
Kids of a reddish hue “do it” sooner. Trysts come in their teens, but are less experimental: less anal or same-sex, for instance. So their teen pregnancy rate is higher. And they usually want to settle down in their early 20s.
Speaking of which, reds are more likely to THINK sex should be saved for marriage, or at least relationships — even when they can’t manage it. So they’re a more guilt-ridden lot. Especially women, who get the purity message from both gender ideals and geographic location.
Blue staters: practical and less guilt
Blues feel a lot less guilty. They love sex, too, but don’t think it should be saved for marriage.
They think it should be saved for college. And that’s partly from fears that early parenthood could harm collegiate and career chances. Their 20s is the time for sex play. Their 30s is the time for marriage and family. So blues are behind reds by about a decade.
But then again, college-pursuing reds behave almost the same as their azure peers.
Unless they are also religious females. (Really, reds aren’t all devout!) These women are much more likely to live out red state ideals: no sex, married sex, relationship sex. And nothing too kinky. But they are the most likely to use contraception.
Maybe more purple than red or blue?
So, despite gender, politics, religion, ideology and geography – all those things that seem to separate us — we are actually a lot more alike than different. When you get right down to it, we are all looking a bit lavender.
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Posted on August 11, 2014, in feminism, men, psychology, relationships, reproductive rights, sex and sexuality, women and tagged blue states, feminism, men, psychology, red states, relationships, reproductive rights, sex and sexuality, women. Bookmark the permalink. 8 Comments.