Men: More Likely to Separate Love & Sex?
Men are more likely than women to separate love and sex, right?
Men are more interested in no-strings sex, and they are less likely to be distressed the next day.
A while back a New York Times piece advocating open relationships discussed how it’s typically easier for gay men, compared with straight or lesbian couples, to open their relationships — for that reason.
But is it true?
A national survey asked people whether they agreed with the statement, “love and sex are two different things,” and women were actually more likely to concur.
Yet social psychologists, Roy Baumeister and Brad Bushman, say men are indeed more likely to enjoy sex without love. And there are plenty of statistics to back them up. (Even though most men prefer relationship sex.)
It turns out that women are perfectly adept at separating the two, as well. Women just tend to do it in an entirely different way. They are more likely to enjoy love without sex.
Evolutionary psychology says it’s biological. Others point to the social punishments that sexual women receive, which so often leads to sexual repression/lack of interest — but which leaves them open to love.
Obviously “more likely” doesn’t include everyone. A female friend of mine has wanted to open her marriage to sex without love. But her husband is just fine living with love without sex.
Yet most often both genders think love combined with sex is best.
It’s a holiday. This is an edited rerun.
Posted on September 1, 2014, in men, psychology, relationships, sex and sexuality, women and tagged men, psychology, relationships, sex and sexuality, sex without love, women. Bookmark the permalink. 17 Comments.