“Yes Means Yes” Is Scary? Rape Is Scary
Posted by BroadBlogs
“Yes means yes” is the standard for sexual consent on California’s state college campuses.
That’s because “no means no” isn’t good enough.
After all, a woman may not be able to say, “No” because she is frozen with fear. Or she is asleep. Or she’s had too much to drink. Or for a number of other reasons.
Some guys welcome the change, like a 19-year-old English major who told Emily Brazelon at the New York Times,
Asking, ‘Are you O.K. with this?’ doesn’t have to be uncomfortable. And in the aftermath, it’s huge. You have a more positive memory of having sex with that person, because you don’t feel worried.
But more often, guys feel a bit nervous. Especially since casual hookups typically come courtesy a drunken bar scene.
As a 21-year-old economics major told the Times,
It creates a crazy gray area that scares the hell out of everyone.
“Yes means yes” is scary?
But is it as scary as rape?
I guess these guys have no idea how traumatizing rape is. Or they don’t care.
Women who have been sexually assaulted typically feel anxious, depressed, and traumatized. In fact, post-traumatic stress disorder is higher among rape victims than among people who have survived combat on the battlefield.
Rape victims also often develop a fear of men and a loss of interest in sex.
So the new law turns out to be good for guys, too. At least if they want to have sex with a woman who enjoys it. And if they have mothers, sisters, daughters and female friends who they care about.
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