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Religion Shutting Down Sexuality
Religious sexual repression
Harmful messages about sexuality are too often transmitted by conservative religions of all stripes.
The Christian woman quoted below is talking about how much she shares with another Christian woman’s experience:
“I suppressed most of my sexual urges.” YES. Hell yes, I did. “I was more or less asexual.” YES. I didn’t have a sexual thought, didn’t have a sexual fantasy, didn’t have a sex drive. I’d suppressed these things out of existence. Read the rest of this entry
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Sexy = Sexual?
Paris Hilton, “That’s hot!”
When people talk about sexuality, they sometimes confuse looking sexy with being sexual.
At least when it comes to women.
You see a sexy woman and assume that she is sexual. When you don’t know anything about how she actually enjoys her experience in bed. Maybe she is just looking hot but not feeling hot. Read the rest of this entry
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Why You Should Cuddle
By Elite Daily (reposted at The Good Men Project)
Cuddling is a pretty stellar activity. It usually involves a nice, comfy bed. You’re usually with someone you care about. And there’s probably a television somewhere in your proximity. Not to mention, it almost always segues into either sex or sleep, sometime soon after. Read the rest of this entry
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Fetishes are Natural – Unless Desensitized?
Paul Gauguin, Two Tahitian Women
I get a lot of feedback on a piece I wrote called, “Men Aren’t Hard Wired To Find Breasts Arousing.”
There, I note that you don’t find the breast fetish in every culture. For instance, you don’t find it in tribal societies. So it can’t be biological.
Several men have suggested that the fetish is natural, but when you see it all the time men simply become desensitized. Like this guy: Read the rest of this entry
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Sex Isn’t About Fun. It’s About Procreation
No kids = no sex?
Sex isn’t about fun. If you want to have fun, read a book, go to a movie. Sex is about the procreation of children.
Jerome Corsi’s not alone in that belief. Read the rest of this entry
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Objectification: Male & Female Fantasies
Édouard Manet – La Nymphe Surprise
Some guys complain that they want to be objectified, too!
Judging from research at the University of Montréal, men may want to be objectified more than women do.
The researchers asked men and women to rank 55 fantasies and describe their personal favorite. The average age of respondents was 30, and 85% were straight, 3.6% were gay/lesbian and the rest were none of the above.
Findings? Below are the percentage of women and men who have had each fantasy: Read the rest of this entry
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What Does “Sex-Positive” Mean?
The sex-positive movement
Some fear that if we create a more sex-positive society — meaning that we stop repressing women’s sexuality — that NO ONE will put on the BRAKES! And society will go mad.
Complete chaos!
So what do I mean by “sex-positive”? Read the rest of this entry
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Guys Don’t Expect Women To Be Porn Stars
How to make love like a porn star
I asked my male students if they thought that guys expected women to act like porn stars.
Most didn’t think so.
Keep in mind that these were all guys who were willing to take a women’s studies class (where I surveyed them). So they may have more gender-equal attitudes than most. But here’s what they thought:
About 50% thought that in real life guys didn’t expect women to act like porn stars.
The other 50% thought that at least some men did. But 20% of them said that they didn’t personally feel that way.
So overall, 70% didn’t expect women to behave like porn stars.
As they described it: Read the rest of this entry
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Cleavage is Hot; Breastfeeding is Nasty?
Sexy vs Breastfeeding
A mother breastfeeds her baby at a mall, a bus stop or on a public bench.
How do people respond?
- Do you have to do that here?
- There are private places where you can do that.
- You disgust me! That’s not something you can do in public. You’ve got to go home.
The word “disgust” comes up a lot.
When mom doesn’t stop, the offended make a quick exit. Read the rest of this entry
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Satisfying Long-Term Relationships
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Some couples have strong and satisfying sex lives, over many years.
How does that happen?
A large study on long-term relationships and sexual satisfaction will be published soon in the Journal of Sex Research. Researchers spoke with the Wall Street Journal about the the upcoming article, and here are some highlights. You can go to WSJ.com for a more in-depth discussion. Read the rest of this entry
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