Girls Bullying Girls Who Are “Too Pretty”
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I’m told I’m good-looking, but I think I’m more average. But that could be a remnant of how often I was bullied in middle and high school.
That’s from a woman who commented on my blog.
But being bullied doesn’t mean you aren’t attractive.
Plenty of women are bullied because they’re “too pretty.”
In fact, the more beautiful a young woman is, the more likely she will be bullied.
Paula Porizkova was relentlessly harassed during her childhood in Sweden. And then she moved to New York and became a supermodel.
At a homecoming rally kids held up a giant poster with Brittany Mason’s picture and chanted, “You are ugly.” Years later she was named “Miss Indiana.” And then she became a model/actress. (Years after she had contemplated killing herself.)
In high school Lady Gaga was thrown into a trashcan, among other things. “The scars don’t go away,” even with stardom, she says.
Why are attractive women so often the targets of girl-on-girl bullying?
A woman’s worth is often tied to her appearance. Perceived success with men and with life are tied to her looks, too.
Next to “goddesses,” the bullying young women don’t feel so great about themselves. So they seek to diminish her status and her self-esteem, too.
Bullying is never about you. It’s about the harasser’s own issues.
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