Once Was, Virgins Had Sex

Arianrhod, from the Llewellyn Tarot deck.

In some times and places virgins had sex.

I first discovered this while reading the story of Arianrhod in Welsh mythology.

In this tale the Welsh King, Math, must keep his feet in the lap of a virgin whenever he is not in battle. And he was always losing virgins because the job was dull. After losing one young maiden Arianrhod’s brother volunteered her for the job.

Arianrhod was not thrilled with the nomination, but she knew she would easily pass the virginity test which entailed stepping over Math’s magic rod. A stiff rod indicated a virgin, a limp rod indicted she was not. When Arianrhod jumped over the rod two children jumped from her womb.

But Arianrhod declared herself a virgin because she was a woman who owned herself. Read the rest of this entry

Republicans Crave Chaos?

Republican in chaos

Republican voters backed right-wing libertarians like Rand Paul, Ron Paul and Thomas Massie of Kentucy, NOT because they liked their libertarian ideas. No:

They were voting for the craziest son of a bitch in the race — and Donald Trump won best in class.

That’s what Rep. Massie says he came to realize about the people who voted him into office. Read the rest of this entry

If Men and Women Swapped Roles in Porn

By “Peter” 

I wonder how people would respond if men and women swapped roles in porn?

Would it seem funny? Or even ridiculous? Read the rest of this entry

Porn and Male Psychology

Pornography tells lies about women, but tells the truth about men.

That’s a quote from John Stoltenberg.

But it’s only partially true says Jackson Katz, a leader in the gender equality movement. Read the rest of this entry

The Gay Samaritan

A North Carolina pastor sternly warned against the danger of “butch” daughters, while advising dads to beat the gay out of their sons, literally:

The second you see your son dropping the limp wrist, you walk over there and crack that wrist. Man up! Give him a good punch.

Another pastor from the same state who, “Ain’t gonna vote for no homosexual-lover” has a plan to put queer folk behind an electric fence until they die out — all to keep them from reproducing any more gays and lesbians.

Hmmmm, aren’t gays and lesbians usually born to straight parents?

Meanwhile, a toddler sings, “Ain’t No Homo Gonna Make It To Heaven” to wild applause from his Indiana congregation. Read the rest of this entry

Think We’ve Overcome Victorian Repression?

Think we’ve overcome Victorian sexual repression and now enjoy a sex-positive society? What about statements like this:

Some girls make it difficult for the rest of us to get respect.

That’s what a sorority sister said about girls who “give it away” too easily.

When I ask my students in the progressive San Francisco Bay Area what they think about this, I often hear thoughts like this:

Yeah that’s true. Some girls do give it up too easily and make it hard on the rest of us.

Or,

Their mamas didn’t teach them right.

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Were Victorians Repressed or Not?

For years Victorians were called repressed. Now some say they were not.

Were they?

The answer depends:

1) What do you mean by “repression.”

2) Which sex counts as “a Victorian.”  Read the rest of this entry

Sex Object vs Sexy vs Sexual

Many people think that “sexual objectification” and “sexy” and “sexual” are all the same thing.

They’re not.

Here’s a quick primer: Read the rest of this entry

Gov Must Respond to Middle-Class

Some "reform conservatives" get it.

Some “reform conservatives” get it.

Liberals have long worried over the effects of income inequality.

Many conservatives are now starting to worry too. After all:

  • Low income means people lack money to buy, so:
  • Businesses lose sales and profits, so:
  • Increased business instability, and:
  • Worry over political instability (Peasants with pitchforks)

Solutions include: Read the rest of this entry

What’s Wrong With Hooking Up?

By Lisa Wade

Crossposted from Ms. and Sociological Images

Hanna Rosin, senior editor at The Atlantic and author of The End of Men, has written a piece about hook-up culture on and off college campuses for the September issue of her magazine. Given that I’ve done some research on hook-up culture, here are my two cents: Rosin isn’t wrong to argue that the culture offers women sexual opportunities and independence, but she mischaracterizes the objections to hook-up culture and draws too rosy a conclusion. Read the rest of this entry

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