Think We’ve Overcome Victorian Repression?

Think we’ve overcome Victorian sexual repression and now enjoy a sex-positive society? What about statements like this:

Some girls make it difficult for the rest of us to get respect.

That’s what a sorority sister said about girls who “give it away” too easily.

When I ask my students in the progressive San Francisco Bay Area what they think about this, I often hear thoughts like this:

Yeah that’s true. Some girls do give it up too easily and make it hard on the rest of us.

Or,

Their mamas didn’t teach them right.

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Were Victorians Repressed or Not?

For years Victorians were called repressed. Now some say they were not.

Were they?

The answer depends:

1) What do you mean by “repression.”

2) Which sex counts as “a Victorian.”  Read the rest of this entry

Sex Object vs Sexy vs Sexual

Many people think that “sexual objectification” and “sexy” and “sexual” are all the same thing.

They’re not.

Here’s a quick primer: Read the rest of this entry

Gov Must Respond to Middle-Class

Some "reform conservatives" get it.

Some “reform conservatives” get it.

Liberals have long worried over the effects of income inequality.

Many conservatives are now starting to worry too. After all:

  • Low income means people lack money to buy, so:
  • Businesses lose sales and profits, so:
  • Increased business instability, and:
  • Worry over political instability (Peasants with pitchforks)

Solutions include: Read the rest of this entry

What’s Wrong With Hooking Up?

By Lisa Wade

Crossposted from Ms. and Sociological Images

Hanna Rosin, senior editor at The Atlantic and author of The End of Men, has written a piece about hook-up culture on and off college campuses for the September issue of her magazine. Given that I’ve done some research on hook-up culture, here are my two cents: Rosin isn’t wrong to argue that the culture offers women sexual opportunities and independence, but she mischaracterizes the objections to hook-up culture and draws too rosy a conclusion. Read the rest of this entry

Quiz: Why Does Female Armor Suck?

Female Armor: Not so good at protecting vital organs.

Female Armor: Not so good at protecting vital organs.

Since “Female Armor Sucks” has over 11 million views you may have already seen the video below. But since students keep sending me a link, I give up: I’ll post it.

Along with a quiz:

Why does heroine-armor fail to cover vital organs? Read the rest of this entry

Twilight vs Porn

10886003_det[1]Women often worry that porn raises men’s expectations about what their bodies should look like and what they should do in bed.

And why does he want to have virtual sex with those other women, anyway?

So women can end up feeling like they’re not enough or not good enough.

Men may worry that Twilight raises women’s expectations for a “one true love” that is deep and intense with a man who only has eyes for her. Who can meet to such standards?! Read the rest of this entry

Freeing Us Both

By Donovan Perez

Aimee

Age: 18

Occupation: Full Time College Student

Birthplace: San Jose, California

 

Elusive

 Elusive

 (/iˈlo͞osiv/)

1.Difficult to find, catch or achieve 2. Hard to comprehend or define. 3.Hard to isolate or identify.

She is elusive. But some difficulties strengthen a connection.

She is hard to define. But amazing people can’t be easily defined.

She is difficult to identify. But she is still in the making. “Perfection takes time,” they say. Read the rest of this entry

Why Do I Care About The Breast Fetish?

470_2580418I’ve written a series of posts criticizing the breast fetish, not because I’m trying to shame men but because I am concerned with:

  • Women’s self-esteem.
  • Women’s ability to enjoy sexuality. (And if women enjoy it more so do men.)
  • Getting rid of double standards

But I’m not interested in shaming men about the fetish. So what is my point? How would I like to see things change? Read the rest of this entry

Men Upset About Treatment? Turn It Around.

Many people are more offended at calling out sexism than being sexist.

Many people are more offended at calling out sexism than being sexist.

A lot of guys are angry at so-called reverse racism and reverse sexism.

So I tried imagining the world turned around. Read the rest of this entry

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