Porn is something that from the beginning of my dating life made me feel very “unworthy.” When I found out that my boyfriend who I had lost my virginity to had been watching porn for the entire span of our relationship, I felt as if someone had just stabbed me in the gut. I felt as if I wasn’t good enough for him. This is a feeling that has not left me really as I’ve gotten older. Read the rest of this entry
By David Chou
“Love More” is a sorrowful song with a hopeful ending.
A pulsing accordion is the first thing to hit your ears. Then comes the haunting voice of Sharon Van Etten, drawn out and steady. Within moments her lyrics paint a sad picture of domestic turmoil.
In an interview with Pitchfork Van Etten tells the story behind the song. Read the rest of this entry
Why would watching warriors prepare for battle evoke tears of deep emotion?
How could a cartoon character be transformative?
I puzzled over those questions when friends and movie reviewers, alike, shared their experience of Wonder Woman.
It made no sense.
I’ve seen plenty of battles and felt mostly bored: chaotic fighting, and you know who will win anyway.
Wonder Woman is transformative?! I read her comics as a kid… no transformation.
Curious, I went to see the film.
And… as Amazon warrior women practiced their skills tears well up.
What?! Read the rest of this entry
Editors note: I’m trying to learn why some women are more sex-positive than others. So I asked my students, if they were interested, to tell me stories of their backgrounds.
So far I have found a few things that distinguish women who experience more sex-negativity and sexual dysfunction. They — and in my youth I would count myself among them — are more likely to: Read the rest of this entry
“She’s so strong,” the little girl seated next to me at a Brooklyn screening of “Wonder Woman” kept repeating to her mother…
Legions of women I know took daughters, nieces, nephews, mentees or simply went in droves, some of them to women-only screenings — and walked out of theaters with a strange feeling of ferociousness.
So says Jessica Bennett of the New York Times.
I had thought Wonder Woman was just another action flick. But there is so much more. Read the rest of this entry
“What I most regretted were my silences,” said Audre Lorde.
The thought came as Ms. Lorde looked back on her life while awaiting word on whether a tumor taken from her breast was malignant.
Now she asks us:
• What tyrannies do you swallow?
• What do you need to say?
• What are the words you do not yet have? Read the rest of this entry
“Stealthing” happens when men covertly remove their condoms during sex.
Alexandra Brodsky is a Yale Law graduate who heard from dozens of victims after publishing her article on the practice in the Columbia Journal of Gender and Law.
People told her things like,
I felt terribly betrayed, but I didn’t know what to call it, so I didn’t know I was right to be angry, right to be hurt.
Others are taking their case to court.
Victims say stealthing violates their trust and autonomy and brings health risks.
Why do it? And should it be legally prosecuted? Read the rest of this entry
As we abandon the Paris Climate Accord and dismantle the EPA Big Oil and Big Coal make more money.
But the rest of us suffer.
- Kids can’t play outside
- We may have to wear a mask
- Drinking water isn’t drinkable
- Local lakes and rivers catch fire
- Some die from damaged lungs
- And more…
It’s perfectly fine to insult women.
And women shouldn’t complain — because they might offend someone.
Not all rap is sexist. But when I talk about sexism in gangsta’ rap some of my students start squirming. Read the rest of this entry
So says Greg Hampikian, a Boise State biology professor. Expounding in the Times on how much women — and not men — are needed to propagate the species, he offers examples like this: Read the rest of this entry