Women Are More Responsive To Repression
- Sexual women are still called “sluts” and “ho’s”
- Parents — especially fathers — are more open about sexuality with their sons. In fact, dad may brag about his son’s sexual prowess but not his daughter’s
- Viagra is openly advertised but products aiding women’s sexuality are not
- Ever seen a movie about girls trying to lose their virginity?
- The fear of sexual violence — or actually experiencing it — makes sexuality seem fearful to women and girls
- And be careful girls, or you may get f’d or screwed
AND women’s sexuality is more responsive to punishment.
“Don’t touch yourself!” What’s different for girls and boys?
If mom tells you, “Don’t touch yourself!” what’s different for girls and boys?
Since a penis is large and obvious, boys will certainly discover it.
And even if boys don’t purposely explore their bodies, they will still have wet dreams because they need regular ejaculations to create fresh sperm. So they can’t help but get clued in to how their bodies work.
Girls won’t necessarily discover their clitoris. And many don’t. For years. Or ever.
And, the mechanics of orgasm are less mysterious for men: basic friction works just fine. Girls must figure out what sorts of touch work, and where.
So girls need both the discovery and the practice in a way that men don’t.
Men’s sex drive tends to be constantly high
Also, women’s sex drive seems to peak at ovulation, whereas men’s sex drive tends to be constantly high. That extra “practice” may reinforce men’s sexual interest, making it more resistant to repression.
Sexuality educator, Dr. Emily Nagoski, discusses why girls and women are more affected by repression in her book Come As You Are. Imagine fraternal twins who are as similar as different-sex siblings can be. After “Frankie” is born he notices how his penis grows, and how it feels good — and he links erections with what’s happening in his environment. But his sister, Franny, doesn’t have such obvious physical responses. Instead, her brain starts linking “sexually relevant content” to social and emotional context instead of genital response.
The world gives “him” much more stimulus
Plus, if he is a heterosexual male he’s surrounded by much more stimulus to get him going.
Whether on billboards, TV ads, Dancing With The Stars, Olympic ice skating, or professional football, women are half-dressed and men are fully-clothed. The camera hones in on women’s breasts and butts and ignores men. Sure, we are seeing more hot men these days thanks to Channing Tatum and Ryan Gosling. But “People’s Sexiest Man” has a long tradition of showing lots of faces and loose T-shirts and few bods.
Even women’s and men’s everyday clothing show off women’s bodies much more.
The male body isn’t fetishized
Plus, no part of the male body is fetishized.
Cultural fetishes (like breast and butt fetishes) are created by:
- selectively hiding and revealing — creating tension
- labeling something sexy and then saying, “Don’t look!” — creating tension
- culturally obsessing over the body part
The excitement that T&A creates seems natural yet tribal men don’t get into a tizzy over tribal women’s breasts and butts.
As a result, western men stare at breasts and butts, but what are women supposed to look at?
The perfect storm
In the end:
Women’s sexuality is both more ignored and more punished.
AND women are more affected by the repression.
The perfect repressive storm.
Posted on April 18, 2016, in feminism, psychology, sex and sexuality, sexism, women and tagged feminism, psychology, sex, sexism, sexual repression, sexuality, women. Bookmark the permalink. 30 Comments.