Body Image: What Guys Don’t Get
Do you ever worry that you’re too fat, too thin, or that your breasts or derrière might be too big, too small, too droopy, too lopsided…?
Men are often surprised when they find out that their partners are worried about such things— “You’re beautiful!” they think.
Women of various shapes and sizes have even been voted “Hottest” (via Maxim, Esquire and FHM): short women like Megan Fox and Jessica Simpson, tall women like Maria Sharapova and Taylor Swift, thin and small-breasted women like Mila Kunis and Keira Knightley, and “thick” women like Ashley Graham, Kim Kardashian and Christina Hendricks.
I’m not thrilled with ranking women or dissecting their body parts, but this is real data showing an appreciation for a variety of figures.
Still, when I assure women about all this, some guys will voice support that’s not so supportive. I guess because different guys have different tastes, even if all women can find men who find them attractive.
So sometimes I get comments from guys like this:
- But she has a pretty face (even if she doesn’t have this other thing)
- I love women who are (tall … thick… slim…)
- Moderate is best
- You can work out and get that way — or if not, then show off some other part that’s hot
Maybe these guys are so attached to said narrow beauty ideal that they have a hard time thinking outside the box.
These guys don’t get the low self-esteem that their “supportive comments” may engender.
They don’t get how they leave too many women worried over how they bodies look in bed, instead of having great sex. They don’t get what a sexual turn off it all is.
And they don’t get the pressure that so many women feel.
But then, men needn’t grapple with narrow beauty ideals, so they have no idea what it’s like.
Some of these guys have said they wish that men were objectified.
They have no idea what that would be like.
Posted on April 20, 2016, in body image, feminism, objectification, psychology, sexism, women and tagged body image, feminism, objectification, psychology, self-esteem, sexism, women. Bookmark the permalink. 77 Comments.