Women Dress Sexy To Wield Power Over Me
I can see how sexy ladies gain the power to get a man of her choosing. But I suspect that’s not what they mean. So I asked: What sort of power is that, exactly?
The answers goes something like this:
See, we spend our lives being trained for self-control, the “ultimate” mark of a real man. Don’t show emotions, always be “cool” and strong, even if only on the surface. So, when a pretty woman makes us “twitch,” makes our heads turn, makes us “loose it” even for a little bit, deep down it feels like she’s breached our defenses, like she’s “got us” somehow.
Okay, I can see some power in that.
But not much.
How much power does a woman really gain by weakening knees or turning heads?
Big deal. Ya know?
Maybe a woman could use her allure to manipulate a man. But that is only indirect power. Direct power is much more effective. And if she’s just walking down the road she probably won’t even take much time to manipulate.
On the other hand, a woman may hope that her beauty will make a man fall head-over-heels in love with her. But then the ultimate goal is love, not power, itself. And may not apply to gaping guys on streets.
I doubt that women dress sexy just to gain power by weakening knees. More likely, they’re trying to raise their self-esteem, since women are taught that our worth lies in our looks. (Pretty sad.)
And looks fade so we won’t have that power for very long. Better to gain power — and self esteem — through other avenues.
Bottom line: sexy dress is not meant to demean or disempower you.
Posted on November 30, 2015, in men, objectification, psychology, sex and sexuality, women and tagged men, Misogyny, objectification, psychology, sex, sexuality, women. Bookmark the permalink. 51 Comments.