Coming Out At Age 14
By Zoe Heringer
I was 14 years old when I began to get in tune with my sexuality.
I had been watching a TV show called Skins, which is a British series that follows a group of teenagers who are confronting different problems in life. Some are dealing with depression or eating disorders or dysfunctional families. Others are coping with abuse or bullying. Each episode zeros in on one character and the struggles they face.
One episode centered on a young woman who was striving to come out and be honest about her attraction to girls.
Her exploration with all that exposed me to my own feelings, which I had not yet fully understood or come to terms with. Her journey helped prepare me to understand how I might be treated differently once I made the same choice to come out.
When I finally did, people started treating me differently — more like an outsider.
I might be with my partner, doing normal “couple things” and get stares — like they are trying to understand what is going on between us. Are we sisters? Cousins? Or partners?
Guys seem intent on flipping me. “I can get her to like guys!” I’m not sure why they do that. Maybe their hoped-for success would make them feel like heroes, having made such a major conquest. I find it frustrating because it’s hard to make friends when all someone can think about is changing you.
Others go out of their way to make me feel uncomfortable, treating me like my whole existence is wrong, and like I am a living, breathing sin.
Despite how I have been harassed I have never felt more at peace. But then, I am living my life openly and honestly.
Other people’s reactions don’t matter to me so long as I am happy. I believe that their issues are more about their own insecurity and discomfort with things that are “different” and not anything being wrong with me.