Men Fearing Women’s Sexuality
By Jonathan Jefferson
Back in high school I was surprised at the amount of hatred that could be directed toward women in common, everyday conversation.
Guys talked about ex-girlfriends or girls they’d slept with in such a negative light.
If a girl had been with another boy — at all — anyone who slept with her later could do no better than “sloppy seconds.”
A boy might “steal yo’ girl.” Yes, “yo’ girl.” Like she’s property.
And “Bitch! Bitchy bitches” were everywhere. Often with a sexual connotation of bad, loose women.
We are so scared of women’s sexuality
We are so scared of women’s sexuality because if they had sexual freedom, surely:
- True love would disappear
- Women would flock only to the most endowed men
- And say goodbye to the nuclear family.
If women had sexual freedom, everything would burn in a fire of blasphemy and wickedness.
It sounds extreme, but coming from an extreme Christian background, I can attest that this is an accurate depiction. Actually, this is also an accurate depiction of the secular double standard of my high school halls.
We insist on this system in order to hold onto… what?
Yes. We know who is sexually free and celebrated. And who is sexually constrained and shamed.
We’re too bitter, or something, to let go of the rules of the past and move forward from all the hate and blood on the hands of religion and patriarchy.
Why hold onto these dusty rules? To ensure a hollow, dead sense of manhood?
No one is better off, and yet we insist on this system in order to hold onto… what?
This was written by one of my students who asked to use a pen name.
Posted on December 5, 2016, in men, psychology, sex and sexuality, sexism and tagged bitch, Controlling women's sexuality, fear of women's sexuality, men, Misogyny, sex, sloppy seconds, slut shaming. Bookmark the permalink. 17 Comments.