Why Don’t Women Like To Be Ogled?
Why do women dress sexy so people will look at and desire them but get mad when people look at and desire them? And then they call men who look at them “creeps” or “perverts” for looking at the skin and other body parts they are showing?
A lot of men, like him, are confused. Women dress sexy, go out and strut their stuff, and then act insulted when they get a compliment?
What’s up with that?
A lot of guys think sexy women only want attention from sexy guys — not them. That may or may not be true in some cases. But there are plenty of other reasons why women may flinch.
Constant bombardment can get old.
Or, it’s hot out so you wear shorts. And then the cat-calls come. Not really what you were going for.
Some dress up for a particular man, but then a stranger’s gaze makes them uncomfortable.
Or, turning heads gives a lot of women an ego-boost. And who doesn’t enjoy that? These ladies appreciate a glance, but staring and commenting can feel threatening. One woman asked men to “Imagine being told from childhood that men are more likely to hurt you than women are.” And that it’s your body’s fault.
She went on to say that it’s not really a compliment. Because, to paraphrase, “It’s not about me. It’s about my boobs”:
Girls get upset when guys comment on their bodies because we’re being treated like sources of pleasure, not people.
For guys who want to know, that pretty much sums it up.
Posted on March 10, 2014, in body image, feminism, men, objectification, psychology, sex and sexuality, sexism, women and tagged body image, feminism, men, ogling, psychology, sex and sexuality, sexism, sexual objectification, women. Bookmark the permalink. 54 Comments.