Women Want Betas
A lot of guys think women only want so-called Alphas — big, muscular, domineering guys. But a study at the University of Tennessee and published in PNAS, found that most women actually want more reliable and generous “Betas.”
The preference for Betas began much earlier than expected, shortly after humans began living in large social groups, according to a study that used mathematical models to determine when humans first began living monogamously.
Before that, the most dominant men had the most access to women. Apparently, Betas have more brains than brawn and realized that even if they couldn’t compete physically they could attract women by devoting themselves to just one.
And, as fathers became monogamous instead of widely spreading their seed, children got more resources, had better survival rates, and developed bigger brains, too.
Which reminds me of a question I’m sometimes asked: Why do men get aroused through intercourse but women more often thru outercourse (the clitoris)?
I don’t know. So women will choose partners who care about them and do “foreplay” – which is usually the main event for us? As opposed to selfish men who only care about getting off, themselves? Maybe more caring lovers make more caring dads?
Who knows? But it works with these theories, which come out of evolutionary psych.
Actually, I sometimes question the discipline, as you can see from my “related posts” below. Some of their stuff seems legit, like symmetry indicating healthier genes. But ev psych can be inconsistent too. In the original theory, men will more widely reproduce their genes if they are promiscuous, which contradicts their other notion that kids are more likely to survive if their fathers are around to support them (and bolstered by the new research I just referenced).
Commonly, ev psych takes a Western social pattern and concocts a theory as to why it’s “in our genes,” leaving it socially conservative: things can’t change because we are biologically programmed.
In fact, the further up the evolutionary ladder you go the less we are ruled by our genes and the more we can make actual choices. The fact that humans are born before their brains are fully developed leaves us largely influenced by our societies and able to move beyond biology.
Sure, Alpha’s can be attractive. And some women go for dominant types who play the field. But an awful lot of women seem to prefer partners who are devoted to them. Others even go for non-monogamous betas (I know a few of these). Maybe it’s evolutionary. Or maybe something else leads to these varied attractions.
Posted on August 12, 2013, in men, psychology, relationships, sex and sexuality, women and tagged alphas, betas, men, psychology, relationships, sex and sexuality, women. Bookmark the permalink. 32 Comments.