How Sex Is Used To Create Patriarchy
Sex is used to create male dominance (patriarchy) in a number of ways. Just take a quick look at these:
The double standard
In the double standard when a man has sex with many women that’s fine. Even celebrated. He is seen as a “the ladies man” or labeled “cool.”
But if a woman does the same thing she is labeled as a “slut” and men will find that unattractive.
Men are free, women are not. Men are celebrated, Women are humiliated.
Men call the shots in dating
Men also call the shots in dating. They are the ones who ask women out, they make the plans, pick their dates up, and make the first move (everything from just a kiss to intercourse).
The next day she hopes he will call her.
Men are independent and invulnerable
Many guys still seem to think they are “uncool” if they have a girlfriend who prevents men from pursuing a lot of women.
And not having a girlfriend, while pursuing sex with many women, makes them feel independent, because girlfriends leave guys feeling emotionally dependent. And guys with girlfriends can’t just do whatever they want because sometimes they have plans with the women they love.
Random sex also makes them feel invulnerable. They can have sex without emotion and no one can get to them.
So they put on a facade of toughness to feel empowered and present a version of themselves of having no feelings — which are to be avoided since they make you feel vulnerable and dependent.
Men “score” in a game of conquering women
Being single helps guys to score in a game of conquering women. If he has sex he wins and she loses — because of that pesky double standard.
Things are changing
Of course all this is a generalization and does not apply to all men.
And many in my generation are definitely changing these standards and ideals. With more time we will see more change. Even now women are starting to ask men out on dates and guys are more open to showing their feelings. The double standard is also weakening.
And year by year women are becoming more independent and confident.
I feel very confident in my relationship with my boyfriend. I take my him out on dates, treat him, and pay for things. And he is confident enough to let me.
Posted on October 14, 2019, in men, relationships, sex and sexuality, sexism and tagged how sex is used to create male dominance, men, patriarchy, relationships, sex. Bookmark the permalink. 74 Comments.