She Wants An Abortion. He Doesn’t
If a couple are in a safe, sane, and committed relationship I think that the women should not have all the say in whether or not to have an abortion.
It would be a shame for a guy to have his baby taken away from him because the woman didn’t want to grow the baby inside of her.
I think that entitles him to at least a conversation.
A baby should not be denied a life just because a women doesn’t want to bear a child, I mean after all the point of life is to have offspring.
I just think that a man should be just as entitled to his baby provided he has always treated the woman with respect and is, for lack of a better term, a “good man.” Yes, she bears more costs, but the baby is also the man’s so he should have at least 45% say.
I hope I haven’t caused you any offense with my opinion.
Here’s my response:
I’m not at all offended. And I appreciate your thoughtfulness.
Yes, if the woman and man are in a healthy and committed relationship, I feel they should at least have a conversation.
But here are some of my other thoughts:
Restrictions don’t stop abortion — they kill more women
In some times and places laws have been proposed or enacted saying a woman cannot get an abortion without the consent of the father.
I’m against restrictions on abortion because they don’t affect the level of abortion very much — but they do cause more women to die. Desperate women go out of state, out of the country, find illegal abortionists who are often unqualified and who kill the women, or they try to do it themselves and end up dying.
If the women have to go out of state, and especially if they have a waiting period once they have traveled many miles, they must spend more time raising funds, and then get the abortion at a later stage — which is more dangerous.
I seek to keep abortion to a minimum
I am for policies that keep abortion to a minimum: comprehensive sex education, contraception availability, and not shaming girls for their sexuality. Important because when they are shamed girls don’t use contraception — they don’t want others — or themselves — to think that they are “bad girls.”
Unfortunately, most people who are against abortion are also against the policies that most prevent it. So they shut down Planned Parenthood, which is mostly about providing contraception.
Pro-lifers aren’t really pro-life
In fact, most people who say they are pro-life are against many things that save lives: Obamacare, Medicaid, prenatal care for poor women, and food stamps for: children, the elderly, the disabled, the working poor, and people who can’t find work in a bad economy.
They are also against important things that save lives: environmental regulations, climate change legislation, sensible gun laws that screen for terrorism, mental illness and domestic violence…
They aren’t pro-life so much as wanting to control women. So they make sure that men make decisions about women’s bodies.
Fertilized egg ≠ a person
And a fertilized egg is not equivalent to a person.
What if anti-abortion protesters marched on a stem cell research clinic and a fire broke out. Let’s say someone had to make a choice between saving one 2-year-old or saving vats full of fertilized eggs (people?). Which would you choose to save?
I haven’t met one pro-lifer who would save the thousands of fertilized eggs over the one child.
Can a man have equal say if they disagree?
I just think that a man should be just as entitled to his baby provided he has always treated the woman in a respectable way and is for lack of a better term a “good man.”
Can you have equal say when you disagree on a matter like this?
Since you can’t have equal say here, she must make the final decision since she bears much higher costs of the pregnancy.