Why Do Betas Push Theory That Insults Them?
By Catfish and Georgia
Some guys who call themselves “betas” (gentler, less macho men) complain that women want dominating “alphas,” not them.*
These betas insist that evolution controls the phenomenon: Alphas just have better genes. Sob.
Yet a University of Tennessee study published by PNAS found that most women prefer more generous and reliable “betas.” I know I do.
I’ve wondered why some “betas” push a theory that puts them down and leaves them no hope?
In a prior post I suggested a few ideas like, “Does giving up remove a burden — nothing can be done so why try?”
Catfish, one of my readers, suggested a few of his own theories, which I found interesting:
- It is simple
- It sounds “sciency” and plausible
- It appears that there are many other guys around in the same boat, which confirms the theory even more
But it is likely that in reality each self-identified beta has a combination of issues that prevents them from successfully dating, like:
- Untreated depression
- Social anxiety
- Any kind of psychological trauma from the past, ranging from being bullied to being rejected by women in the early adult years due to crappy luck (it does happen)
- Habits/beliefs that they inherited from their parent(s) that set them back. For example, some men on the past looked down on personal grooming and attempts to dress stylishly because it was not “masculine”. If their sons inherited this habit then guess what happens
- Messed up sexuality
- Poor social skills
- Challenging economic background of their families
- Whatever you can imagine
Of course it is easier to believe in a simple theory than to accept and deal with all those problems.
* It turns out that the original “alpha vs beta” theory is based on a faulty study. Researcher L. David Mech points out that the alpha and beta wolves being studied were not all adults. Those originally labeled “alpha” wolves actually turned out to be parents to “beta” pups. So of course the parents were dominant and the pups more docile. Adults are also much better at finding mates, pups… that’s not their thing yet.