Men Enjoy Themselves When Women Do
Posted by BroadBlogs
A lot of women think that their partners’ enjoyment is more important than their own.
It’s likely unconscious. But you see it every time a young woman gets distracted, focusing on how she looks, or what he wants, and how he feels…
… while completely ignoring how SHE feels.
But men actually enjoy themselves more when their partners are enjoying themselves.
Young women who get lost in thought, worrying about how they look, or how they should be acting, could take a cue from porn star, Sasha Grey. In the book, A Billion Wicked Thoughts, Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam describe Sasha as “skinny, flat, and lacking in feminine curves.” Yet they say she has a large and devoted male following.
Why? Here are comments from the porn star review site FreeOnes:
- No tits, too damn skinny but god damn i will watch her vids all day
- I totally am into fake Blondes with huge tits, but… don’t know what it is, maybe she likes it that much, and it is showing
- Sasha actually puts enthusiasm into her work… I’d kill to be with the girl with that much energy.
These guys aren’t into Sasha because she looks so hot, but because she looks like she’s sooo enjoying herself!
How you are feeling is much more important than having some pornified figure or doing some pornified thing — at least if your guy is worth having as a partner.
Here’s what a man calling himself “Demon Ted” had to say about it:
Early on my girlfriend told me that she would be “totally down for a threesome” if I saw another girl I found attractive. She later recanted when I told her to never suggest anything that makes her uncomfortable or unhappy.
As we talked on she began blurting out a long list of things her ex did, sexually, that she asked me not to. She hadn’t expected to ever get off on real sex, or that her significant other should even try.
I was angry but because I realized what she had come to expect. I saw that she had come to believe that she must do things she hated for a relationship to “work.”
My girlfriend is beautiful. She’s incredibly attractive just the way she is. And she’s most beautiful when she’s enjoying herself, sexually or otherwise.
So start focusing on enjoying yourself! You’ll both be happier.
About BroadBlogsI have a Ph.D. from UCLA in sociology (emphasis: gender, social psych). I currently teach sociology and women's studies at Foothill College in Los Altos Hills, CA. I have also lectured at San Jose State. And I have blogged for Feminispire, Ms. Magazine, The Good Men Project and Daily Kos. Also been picked up by The Alternet.
Posted on August 22, 2016, in men, objectification, sex and sexuality, women and tagged distracted from sex, enjoying sexuality, men, relationships, Sasha Grey, self-objectification, sex, sexuality, women. Bookmark the permalink. 17 Comments.