Men: Forget Your Own Orgasm
Therapist Scott Williams advises men: Forget your own orgasm and you’ll get amazing sex.
Why would that be?
Scott asked couples in one of his relationship courses if they had an orgasm every time they had sex.
All of the men had. But none of the women did.
So he asked the men,
When is the last time you took care of your wife’s needs and didn’t worry about whether or not you were satisfied?
Blank stares all around.
Something is wrong when one partner is always satisfied while the other is often left unsatisfied, he says.
And then he explained why a man’s orgasm doesn’t really matter:
If a man is wholly concerned with satisfying his female partner’s needs, and is relentless in his pursuit of her sexual and emotional happiness, he will never have to worry about his needs again.
(So) guys, here’s your assignment. For one month don’t worry about your needs at all. Concentrate on being that amazing lover you want to believe you already are… Your woman will thank
Women’s sexuality is far more repressed than men’s in our society, which makes women’s pleasure more difficult, and leaves them less interested. (You don’t find this problem in places that are sex-positive towards women’s sexuality.) So men typically have a higher desire for sex, want it more, and find it easier to climax.
Plus, whoever wants it more (whatever “it” is — sexually or otherwise) must make the bigger effort to get it.
If “he” focuses on “her” orgasm, she will be more interested in sex and everyone will have a pretty great time.