An Insecure Journey to “Beauty”
By Sarah Merrick
Each year around the holidays 9 million viewers and I tune into the one-hour insecurity ride that is the “Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show.”
Weeks later I’m still dazed by self-doubt. Is that how boys think I should look?
The Super Bowl soon follows with guys drooling over the large breasts, tiny waist, and flowing blonde hair of a model savoring a Carl’s Jr. burger. (Likely the only meal she’s had in days.) Her name in 2016 was Charlotte McKinney — and the ad was voted one of the Super Bowl’s best.
The message: I’m not hot enough. And I shouldn’t eat burgers.
Except that I’m also faced with this double bind: women should be super-skinny, yet have a healthy appetite. Or risk seeming self-obsessed.
So you show up on a date and eat normally. That’s hot! But if you eat normally, you lose that “perfect” figure.
Even Megan Fox — known for her sex appeal — once admitted,
In terms of how I look, I’m completely, hysterically insecure.
A woman who symbolizes “sexy” feels insecure?
We are never good enough.
We were born too late. Back in the Renaissance, full figures were celebrated in artwork.
Until recently I had never questioned why I felt so insecure about my looks. I have finally come to realize that an insane society (at least where women an food are concerned) shapes these thoughts.
But now I’ve come to believe that if you think you must follow crazy beauty ideals, and if those ideals determine your self-worth, well, prepare for a lot of pain.
Beauty should come from how good we feel.
A week after the Victoria’s Secret show a friend asked if I thought she was beautiful and skinny, because looking like an Angel was her goal.
Maybe she doesn’t know that Angels live on a diet of kale and dehydration.
As I stood there with my friend I knew that I was not alone on this insane journey. And I knew that this was a journey that women must take back as their own.
This was written by one of my students.