This is a very interesting topic, I do want to focus on what you said “Ultimately, love works in the service of protecting the relationship and maintaining it into the long term.” This is so true, I believe everybody that goes into a serious relationship, this is their main goal, sometimes, sad as it is because we are so focused on protecting the relationship that we would do everything even hurt others to prove to your partner how much you love your partner. Most of the time we chose to just say something bad about other people to please you partner and not make them jealous, sad, but sometimes even if you don’t mean to say something bad about someone else, often, especially if your partner does not like the person you often just agree with your partner or to not make them jealous you tend to say bad things about other people so that your partner would think that you do not like that person. “Love makes the world go round. Too bad it can also harm innocent bystanders.” So true, when you are in love you would do everything to prove to your partner how much you love the, even to a point of hurting others feelings just so you can save and protect your own relationship, we become selfish when we are in love.

This post was very interesting to me- this is all very true into almost everyone’s day to day basis or lifestyle. I connected it to an example to my self and my boyfriend- I’m the really jealous type and if he were to speak or view a different female that iiii think is attractive, everything breaks loose and arguments start, but if I think that that female if not attractive at the time that he makes the comment, I do not let it get to me as much. Now I also have a friend who came in mind- he is male and he thinks and also does , he can comment see and do anything that he wants in regards to the opposite sex person, but if his girlfriend were to do the same there are repercussions and arguments. I think it is in the type is society that we live in. Like some have commented- there are a lot of emotions that take place in all of this so it makes it hard just to love happy in a relationship- and as a female I do believe that we are just over emotional.

I found this article extremely interesting because it is true. I have two scenarios, the first is of my brother who is a very loving and trusting person. His wife often goes on girls only vacations and has lots of male friends but my brother is so secure in his relationship that it does not affect him and he does not perceive a threat from the men that my sister in law surrounds herself with. However I have noticed that when his wife acknowledges a celebrity or public figure and comments about their attractiveness he suddenly is very negative about that particular person. He picks at their character, their talent and even the gossip that surrounds that person to try to, in my eyes, make them appear less appealing to his wife. I often laugh at this, because he has no problem with his wife going to Vegas for a girls weekend but he thinks Johnny Depp is a talentless hack, who smokes and is overly eccentric, all in a wasted effort to make him less attractive. My second scenario is of my brother in law. He is the opposite of my brother. He is jealous and controlling, and he is also a womanizer. I don’t know why but he always had a girlfriend, and they were always attractive. He is now married and is very controlling. I often am astonished at the things he does, from checking her phone to actually tracking her movements through apps when he is at work. She gets tired of his behavior but they have a child together so she feels stuck. His jealousy masks his severe insecurity. He is constantly working on himself to ensure he looks fit, smells nice and even fakes friendliness in his need for acceptance. Yet, when his wife compliments or pays attention to any male, whether its his friend or family, he becomes a beast. He picks fights, tears the other person down until they are about 2 feet tall and even can get physical. This jealousy is disastrous and often results in lots of drama, weeks of arguing and finally people just avoiding each other until it blows over and the next family event or party is scheduled so the whole escapade can repeat. I think that real love can transcend the worst parts of jealousy, but it cannot extinguish it all together. Everybody feels insecure sometimes and needs reassurances from their partner. However I am a firm believer in trust and respect. When you critique someone else based on appearance, ability or misinformation, it does not make them less attractive it makes you less attractive. My brother is very handsome and does not need to worry about his wife or give in to his insecurities, especially over celebrities who often portray a false often airbrushed perfection, and my brother in law would be so much better off if he would just appreciate the life he has and stop worrying about the negative things that may or may not occur. The author was correct, love does hurt, and it does hurt others. Love is what makes us human, but what also makes us human is the chance to change and the ability to choose to be better and not give in to our baser instincts.