Men Commit Suicide Because of Feminism?
Apparently, women are now the advantaged gender. And it’s our fault that they’re committing suicide at a higher rate than we do.
I’m so, so sorry that some people want to end their lives.
But that higher rate is connected to male privilege. So blame patriarchy, not feminism.
It seems counterintuitive, but consider that the rate is higher among white men, not all men. It’s higher among the most privileged of the privileged.
Higher privilege brings higher expectations
Whites and males are both privileged. But advantage brings expectation. And high expectations can be hard to meet — and depressing when you feel you don’t measure up.
Think about our founding father, John Adams, and his family.
John Adams and his eldest son, John Quincy, traveled thru Europe absorbing the culture while meeting high-powered players as they sought support for American independence.
Once the US was formed, John Adams eventually became President. Later, John Quincy enjoyed a distinguished career including Harvard professor, member of Congress, Secretary of State, and US President.
But what about John Quincy’s younger siblings, who’d been left at home — far from the enriching experiences that JQA had gained?
It must be hard to be the son of one President and the brother of another. Charles and Thomas never adequately filled those big shoes. Both died of alcoholism.
Their sister, Abigail (named for her mom) didn’t have a perfect life. But she never faced especially high expectations, either. She married and raised children, as women were expected to do. And she didn’t become a drunkard.
Men must be the big wheel, the sturdy oak… And don’t cry!
Our masculine ideals encourage success and achievement, but leave most men without support when they don’t. Masculine standards have been described this way:
- The big wheel — be successful
- The sturdy oak — be independent
- No sissy stuff — don’t show emotions
- Give ‘em hell — prove manhood through risk-taking
You must be a big wheel, but when high expectations aren’t met you get depressed. But you can’t talk it over or express your emotions because that’s sissy stuff. And you can’t see a therapist because you must be the sturdy oak.
Some men look back on a life of unmet expectations, and depression can lead to suicide.
Feminism hopes to free men from the dilemma.
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