I feel that at times we exclude all men from the equation when we think about hooking up and relationships. I think that people will always look to the woman and think that they’re the only ones who catch deep feeling for another or are the ones who want the committed relationship, etc. Yes the statistics point out that this is true but only by the smallest bit.. Men do feel the same things as women. Even tho they may not show it all the time. They also want to committed relationship and everything that goes with that. And I feel that more men feel that this is better than just random hookups.

I think this kind of misunderstanding results from American movies, especially those that depict campus lives, in which students hook up all the time and find true love through it. In many TV series and Hollywood movies, like Gossip Girls, characters get laid in parties and then they have a chance to get to know about each other. Then somehow, they fall in love, crazily.
Personally, I have had a hard time accepting this way of finding love as I have always been taught to distance myself from sex before a time, which they never tell me. I don’t think it works. Maybe it does but we shouldn’t exaggerate the truths.

This all makes a lot of sense to me since the hookup culture reflects expectations versus reality. Many probably seek the comfort of relationships and want to fit the expectations of college life, so they hide what they really want to fit the ideal they believe are expected of them. This clearly doesn’t work for most because they communicate something different from what they actually want, which inevitably leads to dissatisfaction.
The main problem of the hookup culture is the lack of communication, which is the most significant part to any sort of hook up or relationship. There is fear taught through society in expressing a desire for a relationship or any emotions, which is natural for most to want, and communicating this desire would be much healthier and would redefine these expectations in college. It is okay to communicate that you want to hook up with someone and then want to see if this should lead to pursuing a relationship, and if that feeling is not mutual it’s better to express in the start. The dissatisfaction regarding pleasure probably reflects a lack of communication in what each participate wants out of the hookup or settling for someone that one is sexually incompatible with due to another lack of communication.
The 11% of the population that enjoys only hooking up probably fit the lifestyle mention where some students can focus on their school since relationships cost too much time and energy to maintain. They also probably demonstrate better communication skills that is required to continue the strictly-casual sex they know they want because they already have limited time outside of schoolwork. This means they probably don’t want to waste time with others who do not reciprocate their approach or have sex with people who do not communicate what they seek sexually.
Overall, it seems to me that communication is the missing factor to satisfaction in the hook up culture. Increasing open communication would undoubtably lead to a healthier environment where people can seek the same things they mutually desire and redefine their relationship to what works best for them, which doesn’t have to be a relationship. Open communication also gives room to defining new relationships that suit what each participant desires and do not always require labels, this would increase the general happiness of everyone on college campuses or social hubs.

I always been interested to see in real life those crazy college party, like to prove if it’s “true”. Maybe I’m hanging out with the wrong people. But I can say that my cousin, who is studying at DU, he tells me that parties aren’t that crazy, just a bit, no the hole picture. And he also feels a bit disappointed. Parties for them are, staying at an apartment, drink and watch sports games. I feel that there are people who does those parties, but not everyone likes the atmosphere. The people I have heard who joins those parties are the ones who do hard drugs or really want to get wasted, because they have a lot of issues going on. That’s what I see from it.

I really enjoyed reading this post because I found most of the statistics to be very honest. I do think that in college a lot of people engage in some sort of casual sex at least one point because it seems “normal” since “everyone is doing it.” What I absolutely do not understand is, WHY!? I do not understand why guys think it is so awesome to have a bunch of one night stands with girls that they do not care about, and why girls give themselves to someone that doesn’t appreciate their worth. In the end, nothing positive can come out of a one night stand. First of all, I do not find it attractive if a guy has been with a large number of girls, and no, it does not impress me because ¼ people have an STD…so if anything it just concerns me. I feel that if people can’t talk about what they want with the person that they are hooking up with, then they shouldn’t be hooking up.

So many people go to college thinking they need to get partying “out of their system” – they think they need to hook up with tons of people, get belligerently drunk regularly, and just overall have some fun or crazy experiences. It’s generally accepted that this is normal behavior in college, and it’s almost frowned upon by other peers if you don’t participate. I believe that this is a social norm that creates a facade of freedom. College students think they are at the pinnacle of their fun years and have the ability to do whatever they desire. It has a feeling of freedom, but is it actually liberating if its forced through social expectations? I believe that everyone has different needs in life, and not everyone necessarily feels the need to go hook up with tons of people. I think that we live in a culture that encourages casual hookups because it allows people to focus on more important things like school or a career without becoming consumed in a romantic relationship.

This article was very interesting to read as well as very relatable. I am a college student at the moment and I can see this article being really accurate. Not many people date in my grade or in college at all. I was always confused as to why, especially when the ultimate goal for most people is to have a marriage and a family when they are older. There are many reasons as to why hooking up is a common and true culture. Like mentioned above, people don’t want to be tied down and have to invest in a relationship when they have to focus on school. However, what I have observed is that this generation is all about instant gratification. We are used to always getting what we want and many people from older generations say that we have it easy because of this. Something simple like finding the answer to any question we have is easily accessible through things like google. It literally only takes less than a minute (depending on your service at the moment, of course). But because we are so used to this I think that it is how people are when it comes to fulfilling sexual needs. I know many people that can’t control themselves (hence hooking up) because they are so used to getting what they want. And the reason I can say these things about them is because they ultimately want relationships and are looking for that but complain that hooking up isn’t as satisfying. It’s because they don’t understand that relationships don’t work like that but they really can’t help themselves. I mentioned all this because I think that this is another reason as to why people are hooking up in college.

I found this article very interesting because of the statistics that are presented. At my school, it is very rare that students date, and if they do get into a relationship, it is either a very dysfunctional abusive one or perfect with no problems. However, I also have seen that a lot of people do not hook up other than making out; the excuse I hear is that the school is too small and everyone will find out and judge you. This I can understand from my small school, but from larger schools where no one knows anyone, I was very shocked. When they talk about most people want a relationship, I did not find this too shocking. Most of my friends will not hook up with guys because they don’t want to be too easy and they want to make them work for it; I believe this is a way to get the guy to know you and want to date. Overall, I completely agree with this article, at least for my school, and was very interested by the statistics because that really proves to me that the hookup culture in college is not all that it is hyped up to be.