Dear Daughter, Have Lots of Great Sex
I’m sure you’ve been told that in today’s world, sex without utilizing some kind of ‘barrier method’ can kill you. Let me elaborate: when it comes to sex, I am the barrier, and I will kill you.”
Sounds par for the course, as they say. That’s part of the problem.
In other times and places dads may literally kill someone when their kids have sex – usually their own daughters. In these honor killings honor lies in hateful murder, not in loving (or at least fun-loving) sex.
On the other hand how does this sentiment strike you?
Dear daughter, I hope you have some awesome sex.
That’s something a father wrote on his blog to his daughter. May shock a lot of folks. And that’s too bad, because whatever lies behind the shock leads to an awful lot of dysfunction.
So I really appreciate this dad’s sentiments. So do a lot of others. Ferrett’s Blog’s “Dear Daughter” post went viral.
Here’s his fatherly advice:
Look, I love sex. It’s fun. And because I love my daughter, I want her to have all of the same delights in life that I do, and hopefully more. I don’t want to hear about the fine details because, heck, I don’t want those visuals any more than my daughter wants mine. But in the abstract, darling, go out and play.
Because consensual sex isn’t something that men take from you; it’s something you give. It doesn’t lessen you to give someone else pleasure. It doesn’t degrade you to have some of your own. And anyone who implies otherwise is a man who probably thinks very poorly of women underneath the surface.
Hopefully these words will bring more women to celebrate and enjoy sexual pleasure. And of course, women and men should both use their sexual power and pleasure wisely.
Posted on November 4, 2013, in feminism, psychology, relationships, sex and sexuality, sexism, women and tagged double standard, feminism, psychology, relationships, sex and sexuality, sexism, women. Bookmark the permalink. 37 Comments.