Who’s Afraid of a Feminist? And Why?
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Scary stuff, eh?
Placing these images on the Internet was only the third frightening thing that 17-year-old Jinan Younis did this year.
A group of men in a car started wolf-whistling and shouting sexual remarks at my friends and me. I asked the men if they thought it was appropriate for them to be abusing a group of 17-year-old girls. The response was furious. The men started swearing at me, called me a bitch and threw a cup of coffee over me.
In response to this and concerns about other ways girls suffer – eating disorders, abusive relationships, and pressure to put out – she started a feminist group. She didn’t anticipate how ominously boys in her peer group would find it:
They took to Twitter… One boy declared that “bitches should keep their bitchiness to their bitch-selves #BITCH” and another smugly quipped, “feminism doesn’t mean they don’t like the D, they just haven’t found one to satisfy them yet.” Any attempt we made to stick up for each other was aggressively shot down with “get in your lane before I [ridicule] you too,” or belittled with remarks like “cute, they got offended.”
We were told that our “militant vaginas” were “as dry as the Sahara desert,” girls who complained of sexual objectification in their photos were given ratings out of 10, details of the sex lives of some of the girls were posted beside their photos, and others were sent threatening messages warning them that things would soon “get personal.”
Luckily, most guys don’t act that way.
But why do these guys feel so threatened?
I suspect they are insecure in their manhood.
In a world that ranks men above women, many men feel under constant pressure to prove their manhood — that they deserve that high status. And any move toward equality threatens their higher ranking — along with their whole concept of manhood.
It all reminds me of a gang rape.
Gang rapes are usually perpetrated by gangs, fraternities and more macho sports teams like football and baseball. Why? These guys are trying to prove their manhood to each other, defined as: superior to women, dominating, aggressive, tough, violent. And by putting down women they uphold their rank as men.
Similarly, the young men’s vitriol spewed at Jinan Younis and friends likely created a sense of superiority while demonstrating to the other guys just how aggressive, violent and dominating they can be.
If they felt secure in their manhood they wouldn’t have to work so hard to “prove” it.
Little do they know that they are demonstrating the exact opposite of what they intend, trumpeting their insecurities.
Posted on August 23, 2013, in feminism, men, psychology, sexism, violence against women, women and tagged feminism, gender ranking, Jinan Younis, men, psychology, sexism, violence against women, women. Bookmark the permalink. 18 Comments.