Sex Objects Who Don’t Enjoy Sex

Self-objectification, defined.

Laci Green defines self-objectification.

Sexualizing women can have its perks in the bedroom, with breast fetishes and butt fetishes heightening men’s arousal.

But surprisingly, sexualizing women can have the opposite effect, harming both men’s and women’s enjoyment. And in many ways. Here’s one: self-objectification. Read the rest of this entry

Men Seeing Ourselves thru Broken Mirrors

Seeing ourselves in broken mirrors.

Seeing ourselves in broken mirrors.

By Alexander Ghanma

A man cuts himself shaving and his wife quips, “That’s the second time this week!”

He goes ballistic and starts yelling at her. Why?

Because he hears: “You’re a complete dumbass, I can’t believe you can’t even shave your face properly.”

Sounds crazy. But it’s all about “Broken Mirrors.”  Read the rest of this entry

How Sex Creates Gender

Sex creates gender

Sex creates gender

Sex — the verb, and everything surrounding it — helps create gender.

Like when some guys discourage other guys from relationships, and pressure random sex.

What’s that got to do with gender? What it means to be a woman or a man? Read the rest of this entry

Women Are More Sexually Fluid

sexual fluidity-2Women seem to be more sexually fluid than men.

Queens University Prof. Meredith Chivers found that when women viewed naked bodies in foreplay, they  spent more time looking at women.  Read the rest of this entry

Feminism Is Good For Men, Too

Gender equality is good for men — and for everyone, says CUNY Professor, Michael Kimmel, expert on men and masculinity, and all-around good guy.

Check out his TED Talk. (I summarize his main points below — and add a few of my own.)


How is gender equality good for men? And for everyone? Read the rest of this entry

Planned Parenthood Saves Lives

I stand with Planned Parenthood.

I stand with Planned Parenthood.

Defund Planned Parenthood to save lives?

That’s what folks — perpetually  intent on promoting unplanned parenthood — claim. Because 3% of the services PP provided last year were abortion-related (but not government-funded). And some folks trust hoaxes staged to make PP look bad.

Yet the anti-PP folks don’t really care about saving lives.

Pro-lifers Against Saving Lives Read the rest of this entry

Women Making Love to Themselves

Are you turned on?

Are you turned on?

Being desired is the orgasm.

That’s true for women, anyway. So says Marta Meana, who studies sexuality at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. Women are most turned on by feeling irresistible to their lovers, she adds. Read the rest of this entry

Back to School, I Mean Rape Culture

SUNY Cortland men post back to school sign

SUNY Cortland men post back to school sign

As college women returned to school this fall, some were welcomed back to rape culture.

A few college boys who haven’t yet grown into man-sized shoes unravelled banners shouting:

Freshman Daughter Drop-Off

Hope your baby girl is ready for a good time

Go ahead and drop mom off too Read the rest of this entry

The Most Important Thing For a Woman: Be Hot

Las Vegas billboard

Las Vegas billboard

Many young women think that the most important thing is to be hot. And in a very narrow way.

It’s no wonder. They’re bombarded by narrowly sexy images.

Go to Google Images and type “sexy images” or “sexy fantasies.” About 99% of the pics will be of women.

What? Men aren’t sexy?

And why do they all look alike. Isn’t variety the spice of life?

Go to Las Vegas and take a look at the billboards. About 99% will be sexy ladies. Read the rest of this entry

Coming With Your Partner

couple in bedIf you don’t climax when you are with your partner you’re not alone. Less than one-third of women say they do.

But twice as many orgasm when they “do it” alone (aka masturbation). Like this 54-year-old:

I have never had an orgasm except by myself, so my definition of “heterosexual pleasure” is sensuous rather than sensual.

What to do? Read the rest of this entry

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