Jon Hamm Hates Being A Sex Object

GQfeature6vJon Hamm, aka Mad Men’s Don Draper, is sick of being objectified.

With photos and gossip targeting his penis, and with headlines like: “Jon Hamm’s Penis Is Too Big for Clothes,” Hamm is majorly annoyed! As he groaned to Rolling Stone:

They’re called privates for a reason. I’m wearing pants, for f-‘s sake. When people feel the freedom to create Tumblr accounts about my cock, I feel like that wasn’t part of the deal.

Female celebs are objectified all the time. Remember how Anne Hathaway’s nipples seemed more important than Anne Hathaway’s Oscar? Even Princesses get caught in the net, viz., Kate Middleton’s “Boobgate.”

Women are supposed to be used to this sort of thing. But men aren’t used to it.

A lot of guys probably think that objectifying is no biggie – and maybe even a complement – until men are.

When sociologist, Beth Quinn, asked men how they thought women felt about being stared at and commented on, most hadn’t given it much thought. It’s just something guys do. It’s no big deal.

But when she asked them to imagine waking up in a woman’s body things changed. Guys typically said they did not “know how to be a woman.” But as they talked, they mirrored what women said. Now that their identities and abilities – and humanity – were ignored, they didn’t like it and wanted to avoid it.

Here’s what one guy said:

I would probably have to be very concerned about my attire in the lab. Because in a lot of cases I’m working at a bench and hunched over, in which case your shirt, for example, would open up and I would just have to be concerned about that.

In everyday life he needn’t worry about his clothing or how he looks at every angle. Suddenly he does. And sometimes it doesn’t matter what you wear, you will get commented on anyway.

Turns out, men, women and Jon Hamm don’t really like being reduced to being all about sex and nothing else.

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I have a Ph.D. from UCLA in sociology (emphasis: gender, social psych). I currently teach sociology and women's studies at Foothill College in Los Altos Hills, CA. I have also lectured at San Jose State. And I have blogged for Feminispire, Ms. Magazine, The Good Men Project and Daily Kos. Also been picked up by The Alternet.

Posted on April 17, 2013, in feminism, men, objectification, psychology, sex and sexuality, sexism and tagged , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 18 Comments.

  1. I can relate to how he is feeling because I started working out in high school so I had developed muscles and all the girls would be trying to lift my shirt up and always asking me how much big I was. It started getting annoying because it made me thing is that how girls view me just like something to look at and not want to talk to know me. And as I got older I thought that it was going to change but now that I started in my new job the girls were looking at me and telling me that I had a big butt and always kid around with me like that and I kind of laughed it off and I thought that they were going to stop but they kept on and it gets annoying but I have learned to kind of let it go because people are always going to talk about me like that due to the fact that I work out and do have muscle regardless of how much I don’t like it

  2. zaineb alkhaleef

    There are people out there who will think I’m crazy for saying that the wearing of a headscarf (or hijab) is a woman’s right. That’s because Western society views Muslim women as oppressed and the hijab as a symbol of their oppression. We assume that the only reason women wear the hijab is because their men require them to and that they will discard them as soon as they’re liberated. For me, rather than being seen as a sexual object, the hijab enables me as a woman to be treated as a person. The garment might conceal my sexuality but it brings out my femininity. It helps me be seen as a chaste and pure person who does not want sexuality to infiltrate her interaction with the opposite gender even at a very small degree.

  3. Women need to be view as mre then just sex objects. For a long time women have been just beautiful creatures never do you hear oh that girl is so smart or look at how intelligent she is. There are a lot of billboards with all these sexy women but never about men. When you start treating a guy like a girl they feel very uncomfortable because they are not used to it. On the otherhand a girl walks by and a lot of men start making kissing sounds and that seems normal to everyone around. Society needs to see that women have a lot of potential just like men and that women are not just something that you have sex with.

  4. I love this post. It’s so obvious how we judge women on their “private parts”, but it’s always been okay. I wonder if a male celebrity had a dick slip, how would he feel if everyone posted it everywhere and everyone was talking about it and ignoring his performance.

  5. I thought men like to be think as sexy objects. I met some guys that are not sexy but they always want people to think they are sexy. In the same way, women who are not sexy like people to think they are sexy. On the contrary, women who are really sexy they want people to think they are intelligent. People always want something they do not have and want others to think they have too. This principle won’t change anyway.

  6. Does anyone else wonder what would happen if Seth MacFarlane’s performance at the Oscars had been about the men who had done nude scenes instead of “We saw your boobs”? Besides there being less material for him to satire, it’s interesting to theorize what the reaction by those actors and especially the public would have been.
    America, land of the free, where you can gawk and leer at who you like. Men shouldn’t be surprised that this day and age they can reach(nearly) the same level of infamy and attention that their female co-stars have been dealing with for ages.
    Maybe social culture will mature out of its pubescent antics, where nip-slips aren’t cover page material.

  7. Everyone needs to be taken seriously. Us women have been being objectified all the time. Now when Jon Hamm is sick of being objectified it’s like stop the press! I feel bad for him because people get their hands on a person’s pictures and feel the need to objectify people. I don’t understand why people are so cruel.

  8. Looks like we are not that different again 😉

  9. Rohan 7 Things

    Great post Georgia! Detaching a part of someone’s body from the rest of them and subjecting it to scrutiny is not a nice thing to experience!

    All the best 🙂


  10. The objectification of women is everywhere and its considered quite normal in our patriarchal society. Women are constantly valued for their physical attributes and used to captivate and attract people into buying a certain product, watching a certain show, listening to songs, and just about anything. The sexual objectification of the female body is a strong persuasive method. We do not see this as much for men, but when we do it is a big deal as illustrated with Jon Hamm because people are not “supposed” to value men for their body parts. This society has made it very difficult for intelligent and healthy women to thrive happily and satisfied with themselves because the society constantly portrays unhealthy ideals and that physical parts are the only way in which you can attract people and potential mates. It is no wonder so many women are unhappy with their appearances, devalue themselves and feel the need to be overly sexual to be attractive.

  11. When I was a young woman men I didn’t know thought nothing of smacking my bottom, pinching me of lifting my shirt when I passed. One carried me out through front door of the restaurant where I worked. All in good fun??? Everyone was supposed to laugh. Ha ha.

  12. Georgia,
    This is the one. Thank you.
    Le Clown

  13. Well said, Georgia. The shoe is not so comfortable on the other foot.

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