By Hansel Choi

Growing up in a boy’s school I sometimes succumbed to hyper-masculine poses. Yeah, that was me, along with plenty of other guys. Silly, overblown showcasing.

And then I grew up and wondered why. Why do we do it? Why do we do it even for strangers we don’t know or care about? People we’ll never see again?

After taking some gender courses, I’ve got some clues.

Growing up there’s plenty of pressure from dads and moms and friends. But it’s more like the pressure of “how not to be.”

Don’t be fem. Don’t be gay.  Read the rest of this entry →