How to Stop a Rapist
Women who fight a rapist are more likely to get injured than those who don’t, but they are less likely to be raped. And since physical injuries heal more easily than emotional wounds, fighting back is recommended by experts.
Rapists often depend upon a woman freezing with fear, making the crime easier to commit. But when women fight it can become so unpleasant that the rapist gives up, hoping for an easier target. (And if you yell for help, shout “fire,” not “rape.” People run to fires and away from sexual assault.)
That said, women who don’t fight should not be ashamed of their reaction. Every woman must use her best judgment at any moment, acting as she best sees fit in any circumstance.
As far as self-defense techniques go, it’s probably best to take a class, but here are a few tips that Cordelia Clancy of Concrete Jungle Self Defense offers when she visits our campus during Women’s History Month:
- Appear confident
- Be aware of your surroundings. Don’t wear things like headphones that distract your attention
- Trust your instincts. Your primal brain often senses things that the rational brain does not
- Leave a situation if you sense danger, and don’t worry about offending anyone
- Never get in a car if an assailant tells you to. Your chances of surviving are much better if you run away. And people who are running don’t make good targets
- Car keys between the fingers can make you look scared – and look like a promising victim
- Weapons can be used against you, and it can take time to get into a purse to get them, so use your body, and things that are easily in reach as weapons (a pen, a book)
- Make a hard part of your body go into a soft part of his
- Jab fingers into eyes – shoot your fingers quickly and hard, straight through, aiming for the back of his scull
- Jab a pen or notebook into his throat (to collapse a trachea)
- Knees into groin
- You get the idea
- And then run (you may kick him while he’s down first)
Students sometimes ask if they could do something less violent and gruesome, uncomfortable with the idea of poking someone’s eyes out. Cordelia says that if you just annoy him but don’t disable him, you’ll only piss him off. And that won’t be good for you.
To get into the right frame of mind to fight, you need to create a thought like, “F-YOU!! YOU MESSED WITH THE WRONG GIRL!!!” to take you out of your everyday mindset and get into the frame of mind that you’ll need to defend yourself.
Don’t make your attacker’s life more important than your own.
Get more tips from Cordelia at Concrete Jungle Self Defense and look into taking a self-defense course.