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Gay Marriage Hurts Patriarchal Marriage

7168_480594065357947_606393277_aHave you heard that gay marriage hurts marriage and family? Some Supreme Court Justices worried about this in hearings over DOMA, the Defense of Marriage Act — which  was recently struck down, allowing for gays to marry.

If my gay cousin gets married, will my husband and I start fighting more? Will my brother’s kids feel more stressed out and run away?

When marriage equality was argued before the California Supreme Court the presiding judge asked the attorney “defending marriage” how gay marriage would harm it. After several false starts the lawyer finally admitted he had no idea.

Gay marriage doesn’t hurt families.

But it could hurt patriarchal families.

Patriarchal families have male heads. In a family with two men married to each other, who is the male head?  If one man were in charge would the other be submissive? No patriarchy-lover wants to see a submissive man!

And in lesbian marriage there can be no male head.

If families without male heads begin flourishing that could harm the whole notion that men must be in charge. Oh no!

All this reminds me of a post by CanBeBitter which lists relationship phrases we should retire. Like this one: “Wearing the pants,” referring to women who possesses an “inappropriate” amount of power in a relationship. And then there is “whipped”: a man who is at his lover’s beck and call and defers to her.

CanBeBitter goes on to observe that, “This list mostly applies to heterosexual relationships.”

Yes, exactly, I thought.

Of course that’s why so many patriarchy-loving folks rail against gay marriage. Who will “wear the pants”?

Gay marriage doesn’t hurt marriage and family.

But it may hurt patriarchal marriage and families.

And that’s a good thing.

Since invalidating DOMA, the Supreme Court scored one for marriage equality in more than one way.

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Don’t Let Your Daughters Grow Up To Marry Gay Cowboys

Brokeback-Mountain-heath-ledger-299763_1024_768Mammas don’t let your daughters grow up to marry gay cowboys. That’s a new take on an old song.

I have friends who have married gay cowboys. Except for the cowboy part.

One of my friends married a man, only to come home early one day to find him in bed with another man.

Another gay Christian friend married a woman in hopes of turning straight and living a devout life.

They’re all now divorced.

And then there’s Brokeback Mountain.

Any surprise I became paranoid that a gay man would marry me, trying to pass, or not be gay, or something. I wished that gays could simply marry who they wanted so I wouldn’t have to deal with that.

And I was sure that gay men would rather marry someone who they were in love with and sexually attracted to, too.

We’d all be happier.

Now it looks like we all have that chance since days ago the Supreme Court ruled against DOMA, the Defense of Marriage Act, which had made gay marriage illegal on the federal level.

While the case was in court Justice Scalia fretted over the unknowns of gay marriage. But we do know that marriage between gays and straits doesn’t work. Gays marrying straights does not help the divorce rate.

Others insist that marriage is for procreation.

In that case, everyone from my birth family, except for my brother, would have to get divorced immediately. My father married a woman in her 40s and they never had children. My mother and her husband married in their 60’s. I’ve suffered from fertility problems, myself. My brother, who has sired three children, is the only one who’s safe from these folks.

Please, protect my marriage from these “marriage protection” types!

And besides, it looks like gay marriage is good for marriage.

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