Gay Marriage Protects Marriage

“Mamma, don’t let your daughters grow up to marry gay cowboys.” That’s a take on an old song.

But some of my friends have tried it. Except for the cowboy part.

One of my friends married a man, only to come home early one day to find him in bed with another man.

Another acquaintance, raised in a religious family, married a woman in hopes of living a good Christian life.

They’re all now divorced.

Gays marrying straights does not help the divorce rate.

Gays marrying gays could be a relief to single gals. After my friends’ experiences I became paranoid that a gay man would try to marry me, trying to pass or not be gay, or something. I wished that gays could simply marry who they wanted so I wouldn’t have to deal with that.

Meanwhile, some insist that marriage was meant for procreation.

In that case, everyone from my birth family, except for my brother, would have to get divorced immediately. My father and his wife, whom he married late in life, never had children. My mother and her husband married in their 60’s. I’ve suffered fertility problems, myself. My brother, who sired three children, is the only one who’s safe from these folks.

Please, protect my marriage from these “marriage protection” types!

In 2008 Californians passed the California Marriage Protection Act, aka, Prop 8, which states that only marriage between a man and a woman is legal and recognized.

On Wednesday, August 04, 2010, Chief U.S. District Judge Vaughn Walker ruled the Proposition “unconstitutional under both the due process and equal protection clauses.” The court, therefore, “orders entry of judgment permanently enjoining its enforcement.”

Good.

Gay marriage is good for marriage.

Georgia Platts

About BroadBlogs

I have a Ph.D. from UCLA in sociology (emphasis: gender, social psych). I currently teach sociology and women's studies at Foothill College in Los Altos Hills, CA. I have also lectured at San Jose State. And I have blogged for Feminispire, Ms. Magazine, The Good Men Project and Daily Kos. Also been picked up by The Alternet.

Posted on August 5, 2010, in feminism, gender, LGBT+, sex and sexuality and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.

  1. It is absurd that in any other point of history and more in the time we are living there are people being denied the right to choose who they want to marry. Nowadays, in this sense we aren’t free at all, the heterosexual society in which we live silences the right that everyone has. It happens to be that I’m a heterosexual female, who respect other likes and decisions. But, let’s imaging turning the coin around. I would like to ask those who are against gay marry to imagine just for once how would be to be born in a homosexual society and be imposed to marry a person of the same sex, how traumatic does it feel just to imagine. Even worse to be innocent targets of insults and discrimination, as many gays and lesbians are today. ‘Homophobic,’ It doesn’t sound fun at all to be in the others tight shoes. This is what gays people live each day, in fear to express who they are and choose with whom they want to share their sexual life. By legalizing gay marriage society doesn’t lose anything else that the daily senseless rejection that innocent gays and lesbians are target of. Respect is the key for harmony, let people choose, let people be.

  2. The idea that a group of minorities is being denied the same rights as the majority violates the intention of the Constitution. James Madison said, “In Republics, the great danger is, that the majority may not sufficiently respect the rights of the minority.” The passing of prop. 8 clearly shows that the rights of homosexuals are being completely disrespected and disregarded. It boggles me that citizens, members of our society are denied rights that are so readily available to others. The argument that gay marriage is harmful for the constitution of marriage is absurd. More than 50% of the heterosexuals who enter into this “constitution” opt out. I think that a fail rate over 50% percent is pretty harmful in and of itself.

  3. Arrrrgh,
    When we look back at our history of telling people who they can or cannot marry we find that we have been obviously wrong. First we could not marry out of our own nationality, My mother nearly got a few Irish fella shot dead in her youth by my Italian Grandfather ad her brothers.

    Then there was the religious problem, a Catholic will go to hell if she marries a Jew! What will happen to their babies- the kids won’t get christined and might fall off a bike or get hit by a car and be banished to pergatory because of original sin!

    Then God forbid a black man even looked at a white girl- he could be killed and any white girl who looked at a black guy … well we know she was just trash.

    All the fuss and now all these things are commonplace … and except for a few biggots no one makes a big deal out of it anymore or at least they are not asking for Constitutional laws banning this relationships.

    There is only one set of humanity left to pick on — the Gay and Lesbian folks! I wonder what they will do once we get over that hurdle?

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