Guys, Girls Swap Roles at a Bar

Men ordering Raspberry Kamikazes at a bar as women make passes — and get shut down? This bit of videoed role swapping went viral.

The reel holds stereotypes but even they can contain kernels of truth. And anything that moves us out of our taken-for-granted ways sheds light.

Outside the video real women can order any sort of drink they want, but guys had better keep to manly brews or risk scorn. So in that way women have a bit more freedom.

But a freedom that is gained by ranking men over women. If women order manly drinks they aren’t lowering themselves, but when men order girly drinks they are. (Even the terms “manly” and “girly” are charged.)

Meanwhile, both sexes seem to think the other has more power. Probably because we get frustrated when we don’t have it.

Men have the power to assert themselves. They needn’t wait around to be asked. And if they want sex, well, that’s expected. But women must wait to be asked. And they may worry about reputations, leaving them more shamed and less sexually expressed. Repression lowers sex drive, too, lending women the passive power to care less. And whoever cares less has more power. But here, only with a sacrifice of sexual pleasure.

In the video all is topsy-turvy. Girls try to cut in and dance with guys who are dancing with each other — and get shafted. They intrude into private conversations and get spurned. Polite men utter, “Not now please.” Others are less civil.

The message can come across: “You’re not good enough.” It can be tough on a gal.

But it’s tough for guys too. An annoying girl moans, “Those are amazing jeans. They’d look so much better on my bedroom floor.”

A girl spies a guy in an unbuttoned button-down and beckons, “Hey, I like your necklace. Is that the key to your heart? … Don’t button it up! Oh, come on!”

Male objectification may be paired with assault as women grab men’s butts or pressure them to drink shots to lower their resistance.

Guys who want sex must face the repercussions of, “good guys don’t.” The next morning a young man fumbles for his clothes as the woman he has slept with cool-confidently asks if she should call him a cab. Embarrassed, he sneaks away in shame.

As Joanna Schroeder over at The Good Men Project observes,

(When the tables are turned it all) seems so much more rude, more intrusive, more exclusive, more violent, sillier or more intimidating.

But with this new slant, maybe we can all gain a bit more understanding and empathy.

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Posted on November 27, 2017, in gender and tagged , , . Bookmark the permalink. 56 Comments.

  1. Make-up, flirting, bling outfits. But this beauty contest has a twist – the men dress up, the women pick the winners.

    And the prize? Each judge chooses her champion and may take him as her lover – even if both already have partners.

    http://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-12215138

  2. None of this has anything to do with real guys. Real guys don’t even go to places like that. Actually, most don’t even live anywhere near places like that. Total fantasy.

    • You think? Sure it’s not all guys and all girls, maybe not even the majority. And yet this all looks so oddly familiar. This shows how both genders are hurt. Something that can seem invisible until you switch genders.

    • If you portray all men as hyperaggressive sexual predators, it may seriously hurt people who do not fall under this stereotype but somehow take these allegations too close to their heart. There are notable examples.

  3. There should had been a socially awkward woman who was afraid to approach a man she liked, sipped her drink for the whole evening, then went home depressed.

  4. There’s a rather repellent individual out there by the name of Roosh V (you may have heard of him – he’s become quite notorious), who started out as a skeevy pick-up artist, before reinventing himself as an ultrareactionary (one who regularly rails against the “degeneracy” of Western society despite being a self-confessed sex offender himself). Anyway, nearly a decade ago now, this character had something of a “stopped clock” moment when he wrote a piece entitled “I Was a Hot Chick” (or words to that effect). Basically, he dressed up as Jesus Christ one Halloween night (and pulled off the look amazingly well – it probably didn’t hurt that he’s originally from the Middle East himself), and was so overwhelmed by the (generally positive) attention he got from random strangers everywhere that he realized he’d gotten a taste of what the average attractive young woman must go through every weekend. He said that while he found all the attention he received flattering at first, it quickly got tiring, and he also observed that while a lot of people wanted to strike up conversations with him, those conversations tended to be very superficial. All in all, the aforementioned piece was quite insightful and funny, which makes it quite depressing that the lessons its author learned during that Halloween night didn’t make him a better person in the long run. What a shame!

  5. If men and women were to actually switch roles at bars, this is how they would act. Some men go to bars with their friends to have fun and get to know some people, but after a few shots your attitude seems to change a little bit. Men think they have more power than women do, wrong. Women have power to do what they want when they want. If a men wants to have sex with you and you don’t want to say no. Men think they have the power to assert themselves while women need to ask if they can have sex. No, women have just as much power as men do, it is equal.

  6. This is incredible! This video shows exactly how men behave when they have a little alcohol and how women are treated in a bar setting. Though, this could also be shown in a nightclub setting because a few things would make a little more sense. Overall this was an incredible depiction of the gender roles in a public setting like this. The article hits on the main points already but men tend to be so intrusive and extremely rude about how they approach someone. Not to mention the sexual harassment that does happen when men get too carried away. They start inappropriately touching or inserting themselves into private parties. The catcalling is also an unnecessary and extremely rude thing because it almost promotes rape culture. These stereotypes of men don’t apply to all men and bars are usually a place people go to socialize.

  7. I guess as long as we’re stuck with gender stereotypes, we might as well try to use them to increase empathy and putting oneself in another’s experience. And I think the volume of “This is how I would do it” thoughts it triggers are part of the benefit. Great post as usual.

  8. It does seem sillier when the roles are swapped, which is sad, especially since it can feel a little scary in real life. I feel like I’ve met those guys too many times.

    I don’t like to be referred to as a girl (since I was about 9) and so object to terms like “girly” whole-heartedly, especially when compared to “manly” – the language itself is on unequal footing, never mind what they mean.

  9. I actually think this video is kind of funny. No offense to the men who do this at bars, but it shows how ridiculous they look, trying to get a girl’s attention. From a girl’s point of view, it’s really annoying and traumatic to be cat-called and groped when we don’t want to be. In addition, the men look disgusted, similar to a woman’s expression when she is facing the experience. It perfectly depicts what a woman feels, and accurately shows the woman’s expression. This video should be shown as a method of sexual harassment awareness because it places the men in an uncomfortable position, perfectly targeting their low level of control in the situation. Men would hate being placed in the position, and being seen as a prey would definitely trigger them in a negative way. Maybe next time they hop into a bar and decide to lower an innocent girl’s motor skills, they’ll remember how grimy what they’re doing is.

  10. I like how this video portrayed how a man acts when they spot very attractive girls in a bar and twisted it around to a woman doing the actions most men do. For instance, when the girl slapped the guys’ butt he slapped her for her careless actions. It shows that whether it would be a man or a woman it is unacceptable to do things like disrupting a conversation, slapping butts, and trying to get them into bed isn’t the right way to approach someone. Especially when you know he/she doesn’t want to don’t force them. It’s better to just get to know each other rather than having the mindset of getting he/she into bed.

  11. It was very interesting to see that if a man and women switch places. I always did not understand why we have women’s drinks and men’s. How type of alcohol that people drink characterizes them as a person. For example, I like to drink wine, but most of my friends consider it a feminine drink. It was also funny and at the same time sad to watch the woman stick to the guys. I found it funny to watch it as I had never seen a woman pick up man like this but at the same time sad because I understand that man often do that. It looks very vulgar and I think this is not respect for the woman. I believe that this video shows to us that what we need to change in ourselves so that we all live in equality. We must understand that in this world not to be divided into male and female.

    • After reading your post, I realized that I hadn’t really noticed the fact that there are drinks that are considered for women and men. I read the blog post but it didn’t really hit home until after I read through the comments. I feel like as I come to think of it I have even done it myself subconsciously, I have laughed at my husband for wanting a margarita and said are you sure you don’t want a beer. What makes beers “manly” and cocktails feminine? It seems like a society we put a huge emphasis on that but where did that start and how do we stop doing it? Of course I feel that now that I am aware I will work on not creating a gender for drinks but I’d like to help it become something that is given less value over someone’s self.

  12. I found this post to be very interesting and entertaining. It was very awkward to see women acting as men. A lot of the behaviors displayed by the women were more bothersome then if it was a guy. I don’t find a lot of the behaviors to be attractive even in a man never mind a woman. There is a double standard when it comes to what a man should drink. They aren’t considered manly if they like sweet or girly drinks as society likes to categorize it. The behaviors on the other hand don’t have a double standard for me because in both men and women look attractive doing so. The girl comment on the guys unbuttoned shirt just sexualizing and objectifying the guy. That’s a behavior that I frown upon no matter who does it. I do think this is a great video to show men who it would feel to be treated that way.

  13. The objective of trying to do a role reversal in a bar setting was spot on in this skit. It showed the intrusive and objectifying treatment that men would usually show to women at the bar. For the longest time, men that display these traits at the bar or even in public is nearly the norm, and many people would look past it. However, the skit reveals how it actually is when the gender roles are reversed. We’ve seen how it is in reality, where men would create small-talk and objectify women at the bar. But when the roles are reversed, it seems to be alien to us. People may think that those women are very insensitive to what the men want, they should probably leave them alone. Aside from being a parody of what happens in a typical bar, the video truly reveals the unfair treatment women receive from men.

  14. Definitely, this video points out traditional gender expectation through a topsy-turvy situation in which women put the “manly” manners into action that makes men objectified, and mortified. Even though, this video can hint the women’s discomfort from sexist comments and attitudes, it reveals the limits in which women grow up and deal with everyday. Joanna Schroeder’s quote is quite indicative of those limits. Why the video looks funny? Why women look rude, intrusive, and intimidating?
    Personally, I don’t think the video is that funny; there are parts that are over exaggerated, including stereotypes, for the sake of entertainment, but the point is that nobody expect a woman to behave in a way to intrude in conversations unwelcomed, to slap a men’s butt, or to lounge in bed offering to call a cub to the one night stand, so the whole thing becomes almost a caricature. Why is not expected? Because through centuries society constructed the “natural” path in which women were seen as fragile, inferior, an object of pleasure, and dependent; consequentially, it is hard to change mind and expect no expectations. Especially in the sexual area, women are still seen as prey and men still operate as predator and the vice-versa situation, when women approach men, is still loaded with prejudice. Even though, men can be predators, they should not harass a woman because of her clothes or because of her gender. Of course, the same rules apply vice-versa and other genders as well.

  15. I very much enjoyed this video. I didn’t think it was funny. My thoughts on it were “Ohh yea that’s exactly how women are sexualized” If this video was real and men went through it all then things would be different. They would probably understand what a woman goes through when her actions and her looks are being judged in public and with no sense of sensitivity.There was also the walk of shame at the end of the video when the guy gets offered a taxi instead of breakfast. This kind of thing happens to both genders but usually, women are the ones receiving the shame. This is because in society its ok for a man to have multiple sexual partners but a woman loses her value when she is involved with multiple men. I think that this video was not meant to humor people but to show how women feel when they’re being sexualized by providing the men with their own point of view in the matter.

  16. Gabriela Sanchez

    I think it is great that this video is was made because I feel that it shows a good example of how men would react if women try to hit on them in the bar. The video does seem a little bit funny because it shows how man act when trying to get the ladies. Personally it’s annoying when men try to get your attention especially when you make it clear you’re not interested. The actions that this video shows are very true. For example, when the woman grabs the man butt he gave her a look and slapped her. In many occasions when I have gone to the bar, and Have seen similar situations like this happen. The article does hit good points about the roles being swapped and it shows the amount sexual harassment that women go through each night at the bar or at a social place. Also, it shows how uncomfortable it can be when the opposite gender hits on you constantly making it be less attractive.

  17. If a man hits on women he likes, he is a creep. If he does not, he is a spineless “nice guy”. Damned if I do, damned if I don’t.

  18. It is nice to see the roles being swapped. I believe it gives men an understanding of how women feel when they get hit on or be seen as an object. I think that there is a lot of double-standards in the society that we live in today.

  19. MirandaCaitlin23

    I genuinely believe that because of the way our society is built, by saying men with many partners is acceptable and women with multiple sexual encounters is looked down upon, we are making it nearly impossible for women to put themselves out there in the same manner as men. Women are also, more often then not, more sensitive then men, which makes the idea of possible rejection harder to ignore. I’ve seen quite a few video’s, like this one, that show women and men switching roles, and I honestly believe that women will never have the confidence in themselves and the support of our society to make this truly happen.

  20. Seeing life from another’s perspective is always enlightening.

  21. This video is very interesting. The bar is a place in life to show the power of men and women’s charm. In this short video, they replaced the roles of men and women. Boys become passive and women become proactive. Have to say that such a reversal will find that many places reflect the different requirements of women and men. A lot of points are quite ironic and funny.

  22. The video made me smile. But, then I mulled over the point, isn’t I’m thinking that annoying a person is cool? Perhaps, men think in the same way and while “sissy” is an insult, “manly” is quite a compliment. Sigh…

    How are you doing, Georgia? Visiting your blog after a long time… 🙂

  23. It is slightly in the interest of men to behave in ways that would be demoralizing to the current status in which they gloriously victimize others in. It’s a shot at the whimsical and a breath of the divinely anticipated “switcharoo” that has men begging for a step back into the entitlement in which they came. Any foresight of the before-mentioned definitions can perhaps glean a simple possibility of the mediocrity in which that is the club/bar scene. Men are seeing themselves desperately begging for the attention of women, and women wish to take no part in the disasterous attempts to wane in their impulses. A cleverly acted short film, we can perceive without fault that society as a whole is fragmented at its very foundation and a necessary revitalization in its primary principles of good and evil are at play. To begin with the shift that asks for the change that is best suited begins with the question of morality and conduct of all people’s true character. In a simple matter of words, one can expect illogical and irrational behaviors that divide us when the nature of the game has the pieces set up for others to be of failure. Only by reinventing the structure can progression in a society see itself take place meraciously.

  24. Geawna Kalaya Hernandez

    I loved being able to see the roles being switched!

    This reminds me of this one episode of ‘How I met your Mother’ where Robin (my fav!) and Lily bring Ted and Marshall to a gay bar. Ted and Marshall were complaining about how weird it was that they were being hit on the whole entire time when they just wanted to enjoy their night. Lily and Robin then reminded them that women feel like that all the time at a straight bar.

    Tonight as I watched this video, I spoke to my boyfriend about it. I told him how nervous I am sometimes just to go alone to gas my car. I am an independent woman, we all are. We gas our own cars! How many of you feel like this? I personally wait for a little before getting out to see if there are any weird men around, then I try to make it look like I’m wearing bagging clothes. It sucks, but I’m afraid that my cute outfit might attract a weird dude. Just today while I was waiting for a LYFT, this weird dude in a Lexus comes up to me and tries to ask me if I need a ride. He proceeds to tell me that he just came from acting class and is wondering if I’m free tonight. First off, I wouldn’t go out with him even if he WAS a famous actor because he came off to be so weird. He made me feel so uncomfortable and I stood there hoping that someone from the restaurant behind me would see this and save me.

    I wish men knew how annoying and uncomfortable they make things. There IS a better way to hit on a girl and there IS a way to not be a weirdo! We need to start teaching them how we feel!

  25. I really like the idea of seeing how it would be like if gender roles were switched in a bar! I was pretty anxious to find out how it went, but as I read more and more, the results were pretty interesting. I think this experiment served a lot of purposes, but one would definitely have to be showing guys how girls feel about being hit on when they just want to have at wherever they are. This also made me realize the unfair treatment women go through everyday. When women get hit on, they get shot down if they reject the request of certain men, but if they accept the request, the word eventually goes around and they get shunned for “sleeping around”. Also, the topic of “girly” drinks is true. Stronger drinks that have more of an alcohol taste are referred to as “manly” drinks. More diluted (weaker) drinks that have more of a tropical/fruity taste are referred to as “girly” drinks. This role reversal really showed the true light of certain situations and allowed both sides to see how the consequences of each role felt like.

  26. A very interesting video where the roles of women and men are swapped. When women have many sexual partners, culturally, they are judged very negatively and are devalued. Of course, men having many sexual partners is seen as normal and expected. Hopefully this makes men understand how women really feel when they are used and seen as objects.

    It is so true about the “girly” drinks because I see it often in my social circle. If a guy orders a margarita the other guy says “margarita? Seriously? That is only for girls!”. I asked him why would he say that and he said that there is no alcohol in it and it is mostly a sugary drink. In the bar you can see how the pink drinks are placed in front of the women and the beers in front of the guys.

  27. Watching the roles being swapped is definitely something more men should watch. I have experienced many of these scenarios and it’s not fun especially if I’m just trying to have a fun night out and men who are hitting on me or my friends don’t understand that. It’s completely normalized when the roles aren’t reversed like in the video, but it’s a little weird to watch when the roles are reversed because it’s just not something that is seen ever. This video tries to emit humor in the role reversal, but it’s so spot on with how men act toward women in these types of social settings thinking that it’s okay.

    It was sad, however, to see how men do have the power to assert themselves. For example, there was a group of three men trying to catch up at a table, but the woman was thinking “I’ll just buy them drinks and they’ll let me stay”. I see that in a lot of guys, they think by buying drinks, they are obligated to stay with the woman he bought it for, for the rest of the time when she is clearly uninterested.

  28. It’s so interesting to see the gender roles of women and men swapped! I’ve been out to bars so many times and have watched how sleazy men can be. They tend to gravitate toward women they think are “easy.” It all just seems to be a game…who can get the hottest girl, who can take someone home or how many numbers they can get. I’ve had men rate my friends and I on a scale from 1-10 right in front of us. That always irritated me because I wondered what gave these men the right to think that they are so worthy of rating the attractiveness of another human being. It was kind of funny to see the women in the video take on that role. I’ve had all of these same scenarios happen to me. I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t even talk to men when I got out to a bar or a club. I just feel like it’s all a game to them, they just want to see how many women they can get, in a short amount of time. At 31, I must say my priorities are much different. I wish men would get the hint that it’s not cool to act like a sleazy jerk. It’s incredibly uncool to make women feel uncomfortable. I would love to try these role reversals the next time my friends and I go out; I think it would be comical to see how men react. Give them a taste of their own medicine!

  29. I found this video fascinating because I don’t think that I will ever experience this version of gender roles. I have visited many different places where the expectation of women’s clothes was one that had women physically exposed because that was their attire expectation. The amount of attention that the men in this video received I have been part of myself from the unnecessary attempts to push themselves into a dancing circle, to intruding on a personal conversation during a girl’s night, I have felt the uncomfortable and yet very commonly seen/experienced male behavior. Overall, I feel the video encompasses all the behavior that I have seen in my years of going out. Although the behavior is excessive in this video it makes senses because the video is trying to exhibit or portray all that behavior that can be seen and almost expected during a night out. I had never considered what that would look like in real life and I have to say that it was uncomfortable to watch because I felt some of the behavior almost seemed rude in response, maybe it was the acting in the video, but this made me question if I had ever had a negative reaction to an event such as being approached out in a bar or club by a man. I think maybe my thought process is overly kind because I work with children and I try to teach that mistakes happen and sometimes people don’t make the best choices for their body or others. I also find it conflicting for me that one form of assault never cancels out the other, for the man to have slapped the woman after she grabbed his bottom was a turning point in my thoughts, the reason being that either way I looked at it, the moment was not acceptable.

  30. I found this video to be both humorous and disturbing. When a girl acts in the manner that a man supposedly would at a bar, her actions come across and downright creepy and disturbing. However, when men exhibit this behavior, it is considered normal, which is very wrong. I think this video uncovers the problem with the way in which men interact with women. It is considered “normal” when men have this aggressive behavior in public, but as this video shows, when the woman is the aggressive one, it appears unacceptable and very wrong. Men do not get punished for acting this way in public because society has deemed this behavior as acceptable because men are the ones with power. This is something that must change.
    In another aspect, this video reminds me of a time I tried to make a move on a guy. I casually gave him my phone number; it was in no way aggressive and I did it in a way that was still very feminine. However, he still seemed taken aback by this and was totally shocked by my actions. It shows how men are still expected to make all the moves when it comes to dating and relationships, just like how the women and their aggressive behavior in this video seem very out of place.

  31. Wow, this post is so relatable! I have experienced every single one of these scenarios but never looked at the behavior as anything out of the ordinary. However, watching it as the roles are reversed, it shows how inappropriate and rude it actually is. Society accepts aggressive behavior from men as the norm while women are expected to tolerate it. I think we are a long way away from total equality, however I think we will get there. An example that immediately comes to mind are dating apps that almost everyone uses these days. There are certain apps that are set up so that the woman has to be the first to initiate contact. This is very different from how most of us, and generations before us, have been used to dating. As this becomes more mainstream, I think eventually the line between gender roles will continue to decrease and become more faint.

  32. In my opinion, this video does a good job at displaying the general experiences of each gender as it’s switched. The discomfort women feel when men start dancing on them, as well as the irritation when being approached when there is no intention of meeting anyone new, and much more. These are things women have to deal with in many environments, not just bars. I do find it upsetting however, that in order for some to realize the discomfort in situations like this, the roles have to be switched. The female voice does not seem to be enough for society to believe the unfairness we experience in terms of the treatment we receive in public. I was once waiting to be picked up from school my senior year of high school on a hot day. I was wearing a halter top and short shorts, as I was waiting, two boys in a car were driving past me, stopped their car, and were staring holes into me, expecting me to smile or say something to them. For my response, I glared at them and said nothing. When they saw this they called me a slut and drove off. On multiple occasions at the gym, I am treated as if I am either a piece of meat by being stared at by men twice my age, or as if I am taking up space that the men could be using. The most disturbing interaction I have faced (and am still dealing with now), is with a man at the gym who, whenever he sees me, comes into my personal space and tries to talk to me. I, visibly uncomfortable, attempt to politely say hello and walk away as fast as possible without running. Whenever I pass by, I catch him staring at me like I am his prey and he does not care whether I’m by myself or am with my mom, but unfortunately because he has not physically done anything, I can’t make a formal complaint to management in order for them to do anything. Situations like this make me wonder if things were reversed, would there be more focus on problems like these happen.

  33. Okay, wait!!! I think I enjoyed and laughed at this video way more than I should have. I just think it was amazing to see how the gender roles were swapped and how much things had become awkward. Some women, probably many of them, find that the way men hit on them, extremely disrespectful. I can only speak for myself but I don’t find men to be that offensive when trying to talk to a woman or get them home, maybe because I’m pretty easy going and I find it funny. Men think women are stuck-up and sometimes women can be, I don’t think there’s a valid reason to just treat someone like crap because you are a woman. I understand that women feel like men have these certain privileges and roles that they play, and are usually to get away with how they ace because that attitude is expected of them but as a woman, I will say there are privileges that we also have, whether we want to admit or not. I see it all the time. Women think they have the ultimate right to diss and lay off men because they are women. Some women actually won’t give a guy a chance just because she knows that she has the right to have out of the blue stinky attitude because why, it’s normal and it’s expected of her. I personally think that we should just drop the norms and do our own thing. Men don’t and shouldn’t be so aggressive and women shouldn’t have such bad attitudes every time a dude tries to approach them. Overall, the video was cool. It was great to see how men can sometimes come on to women too strong, through women coming on to men too strong. This was acting, so I don’t know if the situation would really happen like that in real life.

  34. I thought this was a cute video, but I wasn’t surprised to see that most of the crew for this short had male names. There are a lot of things that go into a typical night out for women, that are a huge part of the experience for women, that many men don’t notice, for instance: choosing clothes. Club clothes and day clothes are often the same for me, if they work at a casual workspace. Club wear for women, on the other hand, is often wildly different than day/work clothes. This contrast was particularly stark at the end of the clip when the male actor did a “walk of shame”–There’s nothing particular about a white tank top, button-up shirt, loose jeans, and dark sneakers that indicate the wearer is coming home from a night out. On the other hand, tight dresses, sparkly accessories and stiletto heels are extremely distinctive nightwear. The act of getting ready for a club is often a big part of the club experience itself for women, so is bonding with other women about clothes and fashion, and so is figuring out how everyone is getting home safely. If women go with a friend to a big city bar that has lots of strangers, I think a lot (or most?) of us would want to stay nearby our visibly inebriated friend surrounded by strange men out of caution for for her safety, rather than ditch her to avoid getting sucked into the debauchery or to have sex.

  35. As someone who works in a bar and a nightclub, I’ve witnessed and even experienced problematic men giving women inappropriate attention they don’t want and vice versa. I’ve even seen men get sexually harassed by women as well in nightlife and observed how uncomfortable these men were when the roles switch. But with some men, a shot of confidence from alcohol, this boosts their self-confidence, their ego, or just a show their friends “who’s the man?” by seeing who can pick up women. These men are seeking attention. Women are sexually harassed by these types of men more often in closed spaces or dark places. In some situations, when rejected they get aggressive and angry.
    If these men and women, switched roles, maybe they’d behave differently and realize how uncomfortable and unsafe they can be making women feel and how inappropriate it also is. Also, some people can behave very creepily (men and women).
    In reality, women are not timid or “shy”– at least not all. I’ve seen these type of men and women back off once they realize that the person has a backbone. When girls just want to have fun and when boys just want to have fun – it’s important to keep in mind to be respectful of personal space and to not be creepy and aggressive when rejected.

  36. I feel that this video was great at swapping these roles and bringing awareness to them. I have been to many bars and witnessed behavior like this first hand. This is partially what makes this video so funny to me as well. Everything about it seemed so familiar. Of course, not all men and women aren’t like this but there are some that do. I could not help but relate to the portion that explained the “manly” drinks. I am a guy that loves a margarita every now and then. Something about the lemon and salt. If I am to order this drink with my guy friends, I am made fun of. Jokes fly and next thing you know I am ordering a beer for my next drink.

  37. The things that occur in the video linked are unfortunate incidents that happen inside a bar — pumped up on alcohol, loud party music, and lust, people tend to forget human decency in place of hunting down potential sexual partners like a predator stalking its prey. In reality, the role of the “predator” often falls into the man’s hands as he approaches a woman — maybe several, if he’s fairly unlucky — and tries to entice her with backhanded compliments. If both parties are interested, they may engage in sexual intercourse, much like what happens in the video. In the video, it is the man who experiences the “walk of shame” — but in reality, men almost never have to endure feeling judged after having sex with someone. This double standard still exists today, where men having sexual conquests are treated as achievements, while women are shamed for being as sexually promiscuous.

  38. It’s very silly that we have drinks for men and drinks for women, yet I somehow find myself sticking to the so-called “men’s” drinks when ordering something at a bar while I’m out with friends. In my mind I’m ordering for taste, but I believe there’s also a bit of not wanting to be judged on my drink order. On the other hand, one of my most successful male friends enjoys “girly” drinks and is not afraid to order and drink them in public. In fact, it has been a great conversation starter in many situations and seems to make him appear more innocent and less “predatorish”. And while this video might be a little exaggerated, it doesn’t seem too far off from the truth. It’s great to see a video like this put out there for people to see because it puts a spin on the roles seen in bars and uses humor to show in a light-hearted way how awful some men can be in a bar setting.

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