Breast Fetishes and Double Standards
I wrote a post called, “Men Aren’t Hard Wired To Find Breasts Arousing” and a lot of guys wrote in to say they ARE indeed hardwired!
Some use theories from sociobiology (aka evolutionary psychology) to make their point.
For instance, some evolutionary psychologists suggest that men might be visually cued to breasts as an indicator of good health and reproductive capacity.
Yet they also say that men want to “spread their seed” widely, and will have sex with pretty much anyone.
These contradictory notions probably make men feel better: They needn’t feel ashamed of being turned on by breasts or by wanting sex with lots of women.
I don’t think men need to feel ashamed about either of those things.
Here’s what I don’t like about the unproven theories: They hold double standards that leave women feeling worse about themselves.
The sexual double standard shames women
Sociobiology claims that men are naturally promiscuous and women are naturally monogamous.
Because men have so much sperm, they best reproduce their genes if they have sex with a lot of women. But women best reproduce their genes if they stay monogamous, keeping dad around to provide resources for their children.
But like much of sociobiology, the theory is contradictory: How can she be monogamous if he’s polygamous? The math doesn’t work.
The theory doesn’t make sense, but it does favor men. Men have freedom while women are shamed and constricted.
Women’s bodies must be judged. Not men’s!
While breasts are called a visual cue to health and reproductive capacity, men provide no equally strong signal for women?
Even though women are the pickier sex — holding out for the best — according to this theory? If anything, women would need a stronger visual sign than men do.
Instead, men judge women and women are judged. What fun for us!
These double standards don’t make any logical sense. They only make sense in patriarchies that seek ways to privilege men and shame women.
And as we shall see, all of this harms both women’s and men’s sexual experience in the bedroom.
Contrary to sociobiology’s claims, the breast fetish is far from adaptive.
Posted on August 14, 2017, in body image, psychology, sex and sexuality and tagged breast fetish, Evolutionary Psychology, sexual double standard, women's body image. Bookmark the permalink. 68 Comments.