Women, Objects of Desire (Even for Women?)
Sexy lady’s bodies have been the focus of pop culture for decades.
Maybe that’s why even straight women were more aroused by a nude woman than by a nude man in one study, when measuring blood flow to the vagina. Some research suggests culture may be playing a role.
Is this true? A student of mine wondered.
And do the rules of religion collide with sexuality? My student, Laurelle, garnered a peek at both matters with a simple focus on threesomes.
Laurelle surveyed her friends, family, and coworkers, and had a friend post questions on his forum. Twenty-five women and twenty-five men of varying ages, races, and religious perspectives responded to these questions:
- Would you like to do a threesome with two women?
- With two men?
- What religion do you belong to?
- What’s your sexual orientation?
It’s not a scientific study, but I found the results interesting, and with permission I’m sharing her findings.
Eight percent of the men and sixteen percent of the women were bisexual. The rest were straight. No gays or lesbians, which surprised her. (When I survey my students I usually receive far more “bi” or “pan” responses than gay or lesbian, as well. Also surprises me.)
Now, on to the first survey question. Let’s start with men. Not because they are numero uno, but because the women’s answers are (slightly) more surprising.
Men like threesomes — especially if their religion is anti-gay
First, about three-quarters of men think threesomes are hot. But none of them – even those who were bi – were interested in sex with two men. Interesting.
But does belonging to an anti-gay religion make men less inclined toward a three-way? No. While 72% said they’d enjoy a ménage à trois with two women, the number rose to 78% of men belonging to a religion that disapproves of homosexuality. Are they ignoring their religious tenants? Or do they think lesbians don’t count?
Laurelle found it refreshing that 28% of the guys wanted just one partner. (Better than the 90-plus percent she’d expected would crave threesomes.)
Are women into threesomes?
But women were also less likely to want them, overall.
- 40% were interested in trying a threesome involving two women
- 16% were interested in two men
- 48% of those belonging to a religion that disapproves of homosexuality were up for a three-way
So once again, homophobic religion correlated with higher desire for homosexual behavior. Hmmm.
Laurelle’s sampling of women showed a higher interest in threesomes than student’s I’ve surveyed, or national samples — which both run at about 10% interest among women. But her sample comes from family, friends and coworkers, while mine comes from women’s psych and women’s studies students. Maybe she runs with a more experimental crowd.
It’s interesting that these straight women were more interested in sex with two women than two men. And that even bi men felt the same way.
The results lend support to the notion that women have come to be seen as the sexier half of the species. Biology may play a role. But since the bias held for both men and women, culture looks pretty important, too — maybe more so.
From the time we are small we are bombarded with sexualized images of women, but encounter relatively few such images of men. Some call it female sexual alienation. When we live in a world that is more controlled by men (who are usually straight) than by women, on some level we all end up seeing the world through straight male eyes.
This is a rerun. I’m on vacation.
Posted on September 5, 2016, in LGBTQ+, men, psychology, sex and sexuality, women and tagged female bisexuality, homophobia, LGBTQ+, men, psychology, sex and sexuality, sexual fluidity, threesomes, women. Bookmark the permalink. 68 Comments.