Gay Marriage Protects Marriage

“Mamma, don’t let your daughters grow up to marry gay cowboys.” A headline I once saw.

I get that. Because some of my friends have tried it. Except for the cowboy part.

One of my friends married a man, only to come home early one day to find him in bed with another man.

Another acquaintance, raised in a religious family, married a woman in hopes of living a good Christian life.

They’re all now divorced.

Gays marrying straights does not help the divorce rate.

Gays marrying gays could be a relief to single gals. After my friends’ experiences I became paranoid that a gay man would try to marry me, trying to pass or not be gay, or something. I wished that gays could simply marry who they wanted so I wouldn’t have to deal with that.

Meanwhile, some insist that marriage was meant for procreation.

In that case, everyone from my birth family, except for my brother, would have to get divorced immediately. My father and his wife, whom he married late in life, never had children. My mother and her husband married in their 60’s. I’ve suffered fertility problems, myself. My brother, who sired three children, is the only one who’s safe from these folks.

Please, protect my marriage from these “marriage protection” types!

In 2008 Californians passed the California Marriage Protection Act, aka, Prop 8, which states that only marriage between a man and a woman is legal and recognized.

On Wednesday, August 04, 2010, Chief U.S. District Judge Vaughn Walker ruled the Proposition “unconstitutional under both the due process and equal protection clauses.” The court, therefore, “orders entry of judgment permanently enjoining its enforcement.”

Good.

Gay marriage is good for marriage.

Georgia Platts

This post was originally published August 5, 2010

About BroadBlogs

I have a Ph.D. from UCLA in sociology (emphasis: gender, social psych). I currently teach sociology and women's studies at Foothill College in Los Altos Hills, CA. I have also lectured at San Jose State. And I have blogged for Feminispire, Ms. Magazine, The Good Men Project and Daily Kos. Also been picked up by The Alternet.

Posted on December 30, 2010, in feminism, gender, LGBTQ+, relationships, sex and sexuality, sexism, women and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 5 Comments.

  1. Gay marriage is definitely good for marriage in general. For the past decades, gay people have to marry women and hide their true affection for men in order to avoid discrimination. As a result, the marriage usually has a tragic ending. It is ridiculous to marry a person just to hide your true identity as a homosexual. However, it is still not socially accepted for gay people to construct a family. This leaves them no choice but to fake their sexual interest. Marriage is a commitment and legal binding of two people who vow to take care of each other for the rest of their lives. The sex of the couple involved should not be a matter at all. Studies showed that homosexuals are decided by birth, it is their nature to be attracted by men. We should be more open- minded and accept the fact that two people of the same sex can actually become a couple.

  2. “Good”.” Gay marriage is good.” I also believe that gay marriage is good because as we live in the 21st century “gays” should not be feared and should not be treated with any less rights then those with a “straight” sexual orientation. As time passes humans progressed with technology and race discrimination which is what change and improvement is all about. But as we enter the 21st century with prop 8 who are we to say as a society and government that we are moving forward rather then moving backwards? We are moving backwards to mistreating people who are considered to be out of the “norm.” Marriage is a human right, any human’s rights to be exact. In the past we have seen many things wrong with discriminating with those of a different skin color and wealth level. We have passed constitutions to outlaw these cruelties, yet here we are in the 21st century passing prop 8 which is a cruel prop taking away marriage rights to all humans. I agree with your blog that gay marriage is good and should be allowed.

  3. I am so mad that we are in the 21st century and people, even our government, is homophobic and wont let people express their love for one another. What happened to pursuit of happiness or freedom of religion. Even though we are not supposed to be a one religion country our government ususally follows the christian way and wont let two people of the same sex marry cause its unchristian of them, well that is unconstitutional of our government. It’s so sad that people have to hide who they are to be accepted in society. Marriage is more than just a ring on your finger; you get tax benefits, if your loved one is in the hospital dying than you get visitation rights at all hours and you get their belongings if they pass away and much more rights. Too deny someone those rights just because they dont want them to marry who YOU think they should marry is just wrong! IF marriage was meant for procreation, which its obviously not cause I know many couples that do not want children, there are tons of kids that needs homes and tons of gay couples that want a family. It gives children that need a home a family. I really hope that this changes soon and people become more accepting of gay marriage just like we finally did for interracial couples.

  4. Marriage is a HUMAN right. Plain and simple. As someone who believes strongly in gay rights I have had my run-ins with those who are against equality. Their arguments just do not make sense. I had someone tell me that gay marriage would someday cause the, and I quote, “black ghettos” to increase in population. What? I’m not sure I even understand what that means, but how does gay marriage have anything to do with that? I’ve also heard the argument that children growing up with gay parents will either be gay or have trouble with their personal life and character. I had several friends growing up who had either two mothers or two fathers. They are some of the sweetest people I know and none of them are they themselves gay. You make a good point about the “marriage is for procreation” argument. There are a large number of couples, who, for whatever reason do not have children. Does this mean that they should not be aloud to wed or that gay and lesbian couples should be denied the right to adopt? I agree whole heartedly that forcing someone to hide who they are and enter into a loveless marriage as either a front or to gain access to benefits is completely wrong! Just allow them the right to marry. It is not a perversion, it is two consenting adults who love each other and want to seal that love with marriage. Like Lindsay said, marriage is not for everyone, some do not feel it is necessary and a couple of my gay friends feel that it is not for them. However, should they ever decide that they want to marry, they should have that as an option. I think I cheered out loud when I saw the article on judge Walker’s ruling. I agree one hundred percent: protect marriage from the “marriage protection” types.

  5. Lindsay Parodi

    If marriage was meant for procreation we wouldn’t have television shows on called “Who Wants To Marry A Millionaire.” It really sad the progress that is being made for gay rights but on the other hand its slow and steady. It wasn’t till about a week or two ago gay and lesbians could serve openly in the military, even though a survey of military personelle stated that it would not have made a difference. I’m confident in California as a state that gay rights for marriage will pass, however i’m often disturbed on how the federal government can exclude a certain group of people. I’ve never thought of it from your perspective because i’ve always been completely okay with who I am as a person. I feel sorry for the people who feel they have to hide because they shouldn’t. It causes problems for not only that person but their friends and family as well. I don’t necessarily need a marriage certificate to show I love someone but if they got hurt and had to go to the hospital it would be pretty nice to have the opportunity to be there with them as a spouse. To file joint tax returns and all the other benefits that apply to heterosexual relationships. If I changed my gender on a piece of paper and how the world sees me its suddenly okay?

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