Over the years I’ve dated men who’ve ogled other women. Actually, only four men behaved that way, most weren’t so rude. When I told them their behavior bothered me, it had no effect. One responded, “Someday you’ll have a breakthrough and get over it.” Instead of breakthroughs, I broke up with all of them. Each was shocked… Sometimes the surprise happens differently, as when men “hear” me say that I liked what I didn’t.